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Things get so stressful so quickly.
I don't like it when really good friends turn into what I always hated. I was always on good terms with one of my roommates since starting university but apparently without realizing it he's turned into a condescending asshole whose ego is just about the biggest thing in the world. Ways to make me not wanna be your friend anymore:
-making me feel like I should be privileged to be around you
-acting like you're smarter than I am
-thinking the tiny details of your life are enough to make you better than someone
-being a shitty, unreliable friend
-being your best buddy 'til a girl or someone you feel like you've gotta befriend to keep your ego going shows up
-referring to yourself as my "parent for the last two years" when I'd be amazed if you could find one instance when you've ever done something for me or even bothered to pay attention to a single fucking detail of my life when I actually feel like letting you know what's going on for once
-being a geographical friend
You know what? Fuck it. I'm not even continuing some stupid gay list. Suffice to say, I hate people who suddenly think the world revolves around them because they hit on easy girls and have a moderately good job. You think you're better than me because you've dedicated your life to being the cool drunk guy in this stupid university town? Buddy, I could pick a city in Ontario and chill there because I've gotten out of my little bubble more than a little and actually met people.
The worst is when a person thinks they know you when you usually go out of your way to keep them from knowing any goddamn details of your life. Story of my life, let me tell you.
I don't think I've ever bitched on an LJ about a guy before. It's just frustrating to live with someone so wrapped up in himself that his ego's threatening to suffocate us all.
On another note that does apply to this person but also to others I've met in my life is this: I am not part of your "crew". Don't think that because I'll sometimes hang out with your friends that that means you're the leader of some gang I'm part of. I'm not represented by anybody, and nor do I need to be. Believe me I can get comfortable in any social situation and don't need a leader. I represent myself, and if I'm spending even a single second around you then I've decided that (and here's the important part) YOU are cool enough to chill with ME exactly the same amount that you've decided I'm cool enough to chill with you. That may come out as hypocritical but the thing is I'm not gonna belittle anybody if they hang out with my friends or treat them as my crew, I just feel like chilling with them because I've decided I like who they are and think being around them is fun. Vice versa should apply. Nobody should be treating anyone like they're lucky to be around, they should just be friends based on mutual respect.
I don't owe anybody anything to their rep because I've decided to hang out with them. I'll do what I want and if you have a problem with it that isn't within reason then we aren't cut out to be friends. Most of this is all based around my disdain for "groups". I've never been a huge fan of subscribing to some "group" of people. I hate when someone I'm friends with refers to shit as their group. You have other friends, you can do other things, why would you wanna pigeonhole yourself into some arbitrary circle? It's annoying and just makes making new friends harder. I'd rather just pick and choose who I like best rather than impress everyone. Why be friends with people you wouldn't normally?
Gotta go.
I don't like it when really good friends turn into what I always hated. I was always on good terms with one of my roommates since starting university but apparently without realizing it he's turned into a condescending asshole whose ego is just about the biggest thing in the world. Ways to make me not wanna be your friend anymore:
-making me feel like I should be privileged to be around you
-acting like you're smarter than I am
-thinking the tiny details of your life are enough to make you better than someone
-being a shitty, unreliable friend
-being your best buddy 'til a girl or someone you feel like you've gotta befriend to keep your ego going shows up
-referring to yourself as my "parent for the last two years" when I'd be amazed if you could find one instance when you've ever done something for me or even bothered to pay attention to a single fucking detail of my life when I actually feel like letting you know what's going on for once
-being a geographical friend
You know what? Fuck it. I'm not even continuing some stupid gay list. Suffice to say, I hate people who suddenly think the world revolves around them because they hit on easy girls and have a moderately good job. You think you're better than me because you've dedicated your life to being the cool drunk guy in this stupid university town? Buddy, I could pick a city in Ontario and chill there because I've gotten out of my little bubble more than a little and actually met people.
The worst is when a person thinks they know you when you usually go out of your way to keep them from knowing any goddamn details of your life. Story of my life, let me tell you.
I don't think I've ever bitched on an LJ about a guy before. It's just frustrating to live with someone so wrapped up in himself that his ego's threatening to suffocate us all.
On another note that does apply to this person but also to others I've met in my life is this: I am not part of your "crew". Don't think that because I'll sometimes hang out with your friends that that means you're the leader of some gang I'm part of. I'm not represented by anybody, and nor do I need to be. Believe me I can get comfortable in any social situation and don't need a leader. I represent myself, and if I'm spending even a single second around you then I've decided that (and here's the important part) YOU are cool enough to chill with ME exactly the same amount that you've decided I'm cool enough to chill with you. That may come out as hypocritical but the thing is I'm not gonna belittle anybody if they hang out with my friends or treat them as my crew, I just feel like chilling with them because I've decided I like who they are and think being around them is fun. Vice versa should apply. Nobody should be treating anyone like they're lucky to be around, they should just be friends based on mutual respect.
I don't owe anybody anything to their rep because I've decided to hang out with them. I'll do what I want and if you have a problem with it that isn't within reason then we aren't cut out to be friends. Most of this is all based around my disdain for "groups". I've never been a huge fan of subscribing to some "group" of people. I hate when someone I'm friends with refers to shit as their group. You have other friends, you can do other things, why would you wanna pigeonhole yourself into some arbitrary circle? It's annoying and just makes making new friends harder. I'd rather just pick and choose who I like best rather than impress everyone. Why be friends with people you wouldn't normally?
Gotta go.