Things to Digest
In one of my Funeral Services classes I have to do an interview of someone about the biggest loss that they have suffered. (Losing someone really close to you) And I have a person to interview, but suddenly I am getting the jitters. I mean, death itself doesn't bother me, the bodies don't really bother me, but interviewing a person about their most private pain is suddenly starting to get to me. It is the interview itself though, I am struggling to determine what is taboo, what isn't, what is appropriate, what governs such a conversation. I suppose that when you go into something, you generally have an idea of what you are going in to accomplish. I just don't know what to expect, and as a result I can't seem to get a good grip on things. I mean, do I take a note pad, isn't that awfully impersonal? Should I rely on my ability to remember. If things get really emotional do I console, is that my responcibily, at what point to I end the conversation? How do I talk to this person afterward. Will it make things odd? I feel like I am struggling against what society has engrained in me. This isn't an odd topic, it shouldn't be pushed into the closet, but I have never put it out on the table like that with anyone who wasn't extremely close to me. I guess I am just nervous about making someone relive the pain of losing something that I am unable to relate to. I feel like if I just knew what they had gone through I would be better at this, and it sn't that I haven't lost people, just that I can't imagine losing Tim. I can't grasp what the pain must be like. How do you relate to someone who has lost a child or spouse? What about people who lost a comrade in front of their eyes? Someone that they had an extremely close bond with? I know that I will do fine, but I want to do fantastic, if someone was willing to spill everything to me because they trust my character, I want to do a phenominal job on the article. I guess most of all I am concerned because I want, no I NEED this to be perfect for them and for me. Who knows, but regardless I have to pee and I wanted to play pikmin and elebits, so off with me.