Fake and in Denial
Now, I have to preface this with the fact that 1, i'm not perfect, and I know I'm not and never will be. 2, I'm not trying to pass judgement on people, because I have no right to. I'm only stating opinions based on facts that I've been told and have obvserved myself. 3, Some of the things i'm going to talk about, i have the same problem with myself. and the fact that I realize this makes it even worse for me.
oh, and the bolded part at the end should be read if anything.
That being said...
I have a friend who's going through so much crap that she shouldnt have to be going through. I guess you could file it under the trials and tribulations all christians are guaranteed to go through, but the way she's being treated just sucks. I mean she's doing so much to get her life in the right place, and she's really doing well with that and I commend her greatly, because it takes a LOT to stray from the worldly things surrounding us that aren't so good to indulge in, and make a life for yourself. Sometimes she feels alone. sometimes she feels frustraed because no one understands why she doesn't drink, or why she won't smoke pot with them, or why she doesn't wanna have sex til she's married, or why this why that. Thats hard enough in itself. but then...They think its weird that she's like that, and that by BEING like that, she's somehow condeming htem and making them look bad or showing them up or something. but thats hardly her motive. at all.
The worst part, is her "best friend". Her best friend used to be like her. she used to be this pious christian, a good girl so to speak. She was strong in her beliefs. Then slowly, as many girls (and guys) in college do, she started going donw a bad road. pot. drinking. now guys. i don't find it my place to state what she's done with him, though she's not relaly kept herself the respectable woman she once was. Now, my friend has just watched her best friend go on this downward spiral. And despite her pleas, despite her talking to her, the best friend just brushes it off as nothing...like she's doing nothing wrong. When the truth comes up about her actions, she gets in major angry denial. Why, I dont know. well..i do know actually. because everything that is being said is 100% true, and the fact that its 100% true makes her seem like a not as good person as she wants to think that she is. I'm sorry, but you cant go around doing tons of things wrong and against what is right, and decide that just caus eyou say youa re, you're a good person.
I have a lot of friends like this. And i'm included in that. I know i do bad things, but i'm trying at least to rectify myself and get back on the right path. The thing that annoys me is how in denial people are when someone who is a best friend blatently points out hey, you're doing this, and this is what people think of you. they just dont wanna believe that its true. but it is. then the denial arguements and the hatred begin. At least when someone comes up to me and says hey, you shouldn't be drinking or something, i am not ignorant enough to start yelling that i dont drink and that its not a problem and all that stuff. i know my pitfalls. and i know what i need to work on. i think its when people realize that, that they become a better person. being able to accept your good qualities with the bad is an essential thing.
I guess it just hurts me to see people who considered themselves friends all of a sudden figh tbecause one perosn is stubborn and doesn't wanna listen to a best friend who's trying to help. i understand that sometimes we have to go through our own realizations and all without any help before things make sense, but why get mad at your best friend for trying to help you. i dont understand.
i guess i just think that it sucks that my friend is having to go through all her friends betraying her, and saying that she can't hangout with them cause they'll force her to drink (which is about the GAYEST THING I"VE EVER HEARD), and that she makes them look bad to her friends. well if you're so concerned about that, then realize what kinda rep you have now and that that IS what people think of you.
gah. I'm here for you girl. always. you know i am.
oh, and the bolded part at the end should be read if anything.
That being said...
I have a friend who's going through so much crap that she shouldnt have to be going through. I guess you could file it under the trials and tribulations all christians are guaranteed to go through, but the way she's being treated just sucks. I mean she's doing so much to get her life in the right place, and she's really doing well with that and I commend her greatly, because it takes a LOT to stray from the worldly things surrounding us that aren't so good to indulge in, and make a life for yourself. Sometimes she feels alone. sometimes she feels frustraed because no one understands why she doesn't drink, or why she won't smoke pot with them, or why she doesn't wanna have sex til she's married, or why this why that. Thats hard enough in itself. but then...They think its weird that she's like that, and that by BEING like that, she's somehow condeming htem and making them look bad or showing them up or something. but thats hardly her motive. at all.
The worst part, is her "best friend". Her best friend used to be like her. she used to be this pious christian, a good girl so to speak. She was strong in her beliefs. Then slowly, as many girls (and guys) in college do, she started going donw a bad road. pot. drinking. now guys. i don't find it my place to state what she's done with him, though she's not relaly kept herself the respectable woman she once was. Now, my friend has just watched her best friend go on this downward spiral. And despite her pleas, despite her talking to her, the best friend just brushes it off as nothing...like she's doing nothing wrong. When the truth comes up about her actions, she gets in major angry denial. Why, I dont know. well..i do know actually. because everything that is being said is 100% true, and the fact that its 100% true makes her seem like a not as good person as she wants to think that she is. I'm sorry, but you cant go around doing tons of things wrong and against what is right, and decide that just caus eyou say youa re, you're a good person.
I have a lot of friends like this. And i'm included in that. I know i do bad things, but i'm trying at least to rectify myself and get back on the right path. The thing that annoys me is how in denial people are when someone who is a best friend blatently points out hey, you're doing this, and this is what people think of you. they just dont wanna believe that its true. but it is. then the denial arguements and the hatred begin. At least when someone comes up to me and says hey, you shouldn't be drinking or something, i am not ignorant enough to start yelling that i dont drink and that its not a problem and all that stuff. i know my pitfalls. and i know what i need to work on. i think its when people realize that, that they become a better person. being able to accept your good qualities with the bad is an essential thing.
I guess it just hurts me to see people who considered themselves friends all of a sudden figh tbecause one perosn is stubborn and doesn't wanna listen to a best friend who's trying to help. i understand that sometimes we have to go through our own realizations and all without any help before things make sense, but why get mad at your best friend for trying to help you. i dont understand.
i guess i just think that it sucks that my friend is having to go through all her friends betraying her, and saying that she can't hangout with them cause they'll force her to drink (which is about the GAYEST THING I"VE EVER HEARD), and that she makes them look bad to her friends. well if you're so concerned about that, then realize what kinda rep you have now and that that IS what people think of you.
gah. I'm here for you girl. always. you know i am.