This is something I never understood. I don't think arguments are a universal in relationships, but so often I hear people claim so. That it's healthy to fight, that everyone argues, etc. But this hasn't been my personal experience at all. And that's totally not to say that arguments aren't right for a relationship or make it unfunctional, but I'd like to stand up for the people who don't have arguments in their relationships and are made to feel like there's something wrong with them just cause they always get along.
I think it's rare but it's definitely possible, it's like the relationship I have with my best friend. We never fight, but we're very in tune to the subtleties of one another and are relaxed enough that we have no problem compromising or adapting to the other person's needs, and this is something I experience with Jacob as well.
Everyone disagrees on something, or has a different opinion about something. And when you're as hard-headed as Charlene and myself both are, you argue about them. You defend your point because it's yours. It doesn't mean you don't love each other or dislike each other, even during the argument.
Now, I'm not trying to pass judgment, but I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship where I didn't argue or disagree. The fact that we're having disagreements and discussing them reassures me that we're communicating. Plus, making up makes you realize how much you do care.
I'm not trying to say that if you don't argue you're doomed, just that it's not for me.
Well yea, that's exactly what I said. I mean, to quote you "And when you're as hard-headed as Charlene and myself both are," you specify that it is you two, yet in your original post you generalized that "everybody" has spats and that's not true, that was the part I addressed.
I merely claimed that it is possible for spats to not occur in some relationships as well and it is not a fundamental ingredient of all relationships as you had stated.
This is something I never understood. I don't think arguments are a universal in relationships, but so often I hear people claim so. That it's healthy to fight, that everyone argues, etc. But this hasn't been my personal experience at all. And that's totally not to say that arguments aren't right for a relationship or make it unfunctional, but I'd like to stand up for the people who don't have arguments in their relationships and are made to feel like there's something wrong with them just cause they always get along.
I think it's rare but it's definitely possible, it's like the relationship I have with my best friend. We never fight, but we're very in tune to the subtleties of one another and are relaxed enough that we have no problem compromising or adapting to the other person's needs, and this is something I experience with Jacob as well.
So, yea.
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Now, I'm not trying to pass judgment, but I don't think I'd want to be in a relationship where I didn't argue or disagree. The fact that we're having disagreements and discussing them reassures me that we're communicating. Plus, making up makes you realize how much you do care.
I'm not trying to say that if you don't argue you're doomed, just that it's not for me.
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I merely claimed that it is possible for spats to not occur in some relationships as well and it is not a fundamental ingredient of all relationships as you had stated.
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