It's over.
Who wants to see the text conversation we had? EVERYONE? Awesome, here it is in all of its sob-and-swearing-inducing glory. If you don't want to read it, here's the main jist: I am awesome and sweet and loving and did NOTHING WRONG, AT ALL... and he is the king of the douchebags.
I asked him to go to a movie w/ me and Chels yesterday because he had mentioned wanting to see it, too. He texted me during the movie and asked if he missed it, so when I got out of the movie I told him he did and asked what he was doing. He said he was freezing and waiting for the Colts game. So I offered for him to come to my place to watch the game, since my place is warm. (Big step for me, btw, since you all know how I feel about idiotic football... especially the idiot Colts, and watching them. And he knows this.) He says that he has to pick up a pizza for his fam but after that it's possible. So I say I hope to see him, and sit around and wait. After a while...
him: You going to work at 9:30?
me: Thats when Ill leave
him: That's what I was asking
me: Why?
him: Because I haven't left yet
me: Oh ok
And so I wait some more. And wait. And wait. And build my 2nd barstool. And wait. And wait. And my pizza comes that I ordered, so I eat a bit. And wait. And wait. And eat another piece. And wait, and take a nap. And wait. And put in Parks & Rec season 2. And get online and see that the game ended a while ago. And wait.
me: I assume you decided not to come
him: yeah sorry
me: If you dont want to see me you should just say no. I keep getting my hopes up for nothing. I really like you ya know... it hurts every time. :-(
him: Well Im sorry. You want us to be more serious than we are. The game got over at 7 and Im just not in a social mood. If we make definate plans for my day off we Ill be there. But Im not good with maybe or sorta'.
me: Wanting to see you once in 2 weeks time isn't being that serious. I thought you said you had feelings for me and wanted to go on another date. I don't get you.
him: Idk, there are just some deal breakers I cant get past. I like hanging out with you, but you just keep liking me more
me: What are those?
him: You aren't really into my business and you have a pretty bad self-image.
me: I don't think we've talked that much about either of those things... How could you have formed an opinion already?
him: Because you didnt have to say it, we have talked about enough stuff. You are at your current job because you are scared to chase your dream, you get emotionally distressed easily when you can tell where I stand because you are unsure where you stand. You spend most of the time we are together feeling lucky or in a dream. Im not as great as you have made me out to be and it is pressure I dislike
me: I think you think you know me better than you actually do. I get emotional because you flip between liking me and disliking me every other day. And Im aware of your faults, I just like you anyway and think its important to cut people slack and like them as they are. Also I try to tell you nice things to build you up. I value myself. I have a great personality and sense of humor and Im really pretty and smart and capable. Maybe Ive been too humble or not made myself clear. Im inexperienced w dating and still trying to figure out how it works. I thought you were being patient with me. Im just not gonna be perfect or great right away.
him: I dont want you going around throwing a ticker tape parade for yourself, but I just dont see longterm for you and I. I am sorry Im bad at talking about things, but we never seem to get what each other means.
me: Its because we only talk via text and I suck at text convos. You wont even give me a chance? At all? Weve only known each other 2 months...
him: That never works on me. I was patient because we were just friends kinda getting to know each other. Im just dating right now and dont want to go further.
me: Does that mean you are just dating other people or that we are still dating? Just for clarification. Im fine w not rushing into anything.
him: Im only dating period. So we could date some more, but I am pretty sure I wont find out anything else.
me: K so im off Thurs if you wanna hang out
him: Ok
me: So do you wanna make a definite plan? Im talking about as just friends not a date. Im not interested in dating you anymore.
him: Sure
me: That is not a definite plan
him: Nope it is opening the floor for ideas.
me: Well what do you like to do w your friends
him: Dont have any. :-P Have you seen Black Swan?
me: Sucks to be you although I may see why. Nope and I want to. Lets see it. 505 or 735?
him: I was kidding, you dont have to do a bflip. Earlier is good.
me: Kidding about what. 235? Or 505?
him: Kidding about not having friends.
me: Ah well
him: You offered me two times, I said earlier is better so 5:05 will work.
me: Ok see ya then
him: Yeah...
The end. (And I know some of you might think he was being nice by being honest with me, whatever. If you knew the conversations we've had leading up to this, and the fact that he basically led me to believe that he liked me EVEN THOUGH I didn't care about his business and was scared to pursue another job, you'd see how much of an asshole he was being.
He led me on. Big time. Even the last time we got together, which was WELL AFTER that whopping ONE conversation we had about his business AND after he told me he was IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER GIRL but still wanted to date me... he told me we should go on another date. And spent a good amount of time making out with me, amongst other things.
No. He's an asshole who only cares about himself and his bottom line. And good luck to him, because chances are he'll never find a woman dumb enough to stick around after she finds out she can only be his girlfriend if she WORKS for him and is perfect all the time.
Judgmental prick.
He's lucky I'm willing to be friends with total assholes.
Plus I just really want to see Black Swan and don't know of anyone else who does. Except Melissa. Who I invited to come along on Thursday.
I think he'll regret this, because as of three weeks ago he was acting like we were destined for marriage. No joke. So he DID really like me. He's just got this stupid idea in his head of what his perfect relationship will be, and won't budge on any of it. And no woman should have to put up with ridiculous expectations and judgments of character rather than love and acceptance. No woman.
Rant over. (I'm being open about this because I don't give a rip if he finds out I'm talking crap about him. He deserves every word.)
I asked him to go to a movie w/ me and Chels yesterday because he had mentioned wanting to see it, too. He texted me during the movie and asked if he missed it, so when I got out of the movie I told him he did and asked what he was doing. He said he was freezing and waiting for the Colts game. So I offered for him to come to my place to watch the game, since my place is warm. (Big step for me, btw, since you all know how I feel about idiotic football... especially the idiot Colts, and watching them. And he knows this.) He says that he has to pick up a pizza for his fam but after that it's possible. So I say I hope to see him, and sit around and wait. After a while...
him: You going to work at 9:30?
me: Thats when Ill leave
him: That's what I was asking
me: Why?
him: Because I haven't left yet
me: Oh ok
And so I wait some more. And wait. And wait. And build my 2nd barstool. And wait. And wait. And my pizza comes that I ordered, so I eat a bit. And wait. And wait. And eat another piece. And wait, and take a nap. And wait. And put in Parks & Rec season 2. And get online and see that the game ended a while ago. And wait.
me: I assume you decided not to come
him: yeah sorry
me: If you dont want to see me you should just say no. I keep getting my hopes up for nothing. I really like you ya know... it hurts every time. :-(
him: Well Im sorry. You want us to be more serious than we are. The game got over at 7 and Im just not in a social mood. If we make definate plans for my day off we Ill be there. But Im not good with maybe or sorta'.
me: Wanting to see you once in 2 weeks time isn't being that serious. I thought you said you had feelings for me and wanted to go on another date. I don't get you.
him: Idk, there are just some deal breakers I cant get past. I like hanging out with you, but you just keep liking me more
me: What are those?
him: You aren't really into my business and you have a pretty bad self-image.
me: I don't think we've talked that much about either of those things... How could you have formed an opinion already?
him: Because you didnt have to say it, we have talked about enough stuff. You are at your current job because you are scared to chase your dream, you get emotionally distressed easily when you can tell where I stand because you are unsure where you stand. You spend most of the time we are together feeling lucky or in a dream. Im not as great as you have made me out to be and it is pressure I dislike
me: I think you think you know me better than you actually do. I get emotional because you flip between liking me and disliking me every other day. And Im aware of your faults, I just like you anyway and think its important to cut people slack and like them as they are. Also I try to tell you nice things to build you up. I value myself. I have a great personality and sense of humor and Im really pretty and smart and capable. Maybe Ive been too humble or not made myself clear. Im inexperienced w dating and still trying to figure out how it works. I thought you were being patient with me. Im just not gonna be perfect or great right away.
him: I dont want you going around throwing a ticker tape parade for yourself, but I just dont see longterm for you and I. I am sorry Im bad at talking about things, but we never seem to get what each other means.
me: Its because we only talk via text and I suck at text convos. You wont even give me a chance? At all? Weve only known each other 2 months...
him: That never works on me. I was patient because we were just friends kinda getting to know each other. Im just dating right now and dont want to go further.
me: Does that mean you are just dating other people or that we are still dating? Just for clarification. Im fine w not rushing into anything.
him: Im only dating period. So we could date some more, but I am pretty sure I wont find out anything else.
me: K so im off Thurs if you wanna hang out
him: Ok
me: So do you wanna make a definite plan? Im talking about as just friends not a date. Im not interested in dating you anymore.
him: Sure
me: That is not a definite plan
him: Nope it is opening the floor for ideas.
me: Well what do you like to do w your friends
him: Dont have any. :-P Have you seen Black Swan?
me: Sucks to be you although I may see why. Nope and I want to. Lets see it. 505 or 735?
him: I was kidding, you dont have to do a bflip. Earlier is good.
me: Kidding about what. 235? Or 505?
him: Kidding about not having friends.
me: Ah well
him: You offered me two times, I said earlier is better so 5:05 will work.
me: Ok see ya then
him: Yeah...
The end. (And I know some of you might think he was being nice by being honest with me, whatever. If you knew the conversations we've had leading up to this, and the fact that he basically led me to believe that he liked me EVEN THOUGH I didn't care about his business and was scared to pursue another job, you'd see how much of an asshole he was being.
He led me on. Big time. Even the last time we got together, which was WELL AFTER that whopping ONE conversation we had about his business AND after he told me he was IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER GIRL but still wanted to date me... he told me we should go on another date. And spent a good amount of time making out with me, amongst other things.
No. He's an asshole who only cares about himself and his bottom line. And good luck to him, because chances are he'll never find a woman dumb enough to stick around after she finds out she can only be his girlfriend if she WORKS for him and is perfect all the time.
Judgmental prick.
He's lucky I'm willing to be friends with total assholes.
Plus I just really want to see Black Swan and don't know of anyone else who does. Except Melissa. Who I invited to come along on Thursday.
I think he'll regret this, because as of three weeks ago he was acting like we were destined for marriage. No joke. So he DID really like me. He's just got this stupid idea in his head of what his perfect relationship will be, and won't budge on any of it. And no woman should have to put up with ridiculous expectations and judgments of character rather than love and acceptance. No woman.
Rant over. (I'm being open about this because I don't give a rip if he finds out I'm talking crap about him. He deserves every word.)