please somebody read this whole thing and help
Nervous breakdown? ME? No way...gee, why would I?
Well, it could be because I think my boyfriend still has feelings for one of my best friends...the one who hooked us up in the first place. Here's the story:
My friend, who shall remain nameless,even though you don't know her anyway, she doesn't even have an lj, anyway, my friend and Jake have known each other for years. But he used to have a huge crush on her, he was like, obsessed with her (so she says) and she used to, at one point, have feelings for him too. But now, they SAY they are more like brother and sister now, and they are very close. And besides, my friend has a boyfriend...but he has been calling her every other night and they have been talking until about 2 oclock in the morning, and I have no idea what they talk about, but EVERY time I talk on the phone with Jake, he says something about my friend, like how awesome she is, or how much he misses her and shit like that. EVERY time. And every time I say something about how much Jake likes me to her, she always says something back about how much he used to like HER, like "Oh yeah he used to...blah blah blah to ME too" She always turns it around back on her so she's constantly reminding me of how he used have feelings for her. And this morning I was talking to her and said how me Jake stayed up until 3 in the morning on the phone and she was like, "Yeah he called me the other night too, i don't know what he was doing, but he was breathing really hard..." WTF??!?!? I mean..WTF?? what would she say that to me???? So I have my suspicions that something is going on between them....and it really hurts me everytime he mentions her. I feel...kinda low. I KNOW she has helped him through some crap, but I still feel like he has feelings for her, and I have no idea what they do or what they talk about on the phone late at night. Would she every do anything behind my back? Would HE? I don't know...I'd like to think not...he's probably very vulnerable around her because he used to have such strong feelings, and she KNOWS she has that power, and it bothers me. She seems a bit jealous of me and him. I don't know. PLEASE HELP. Should I confront him about it, and ask him if he still has feelings for her, and hope he doesn't lie? Or just I just grin and bear it and be crying inside everytime he talks about her or everytime she reminds me of how they used to be? help....
Well, it could be because I think my boyfriend still has feelings for one of my best friends...the one who hooked us up in the first place. Here's the story:
My friend, who shall remain nameless,even though you don't know her anyway, she doesn't even have an lj, anyway, my friend and Jake have known each other for years. But he used to have a huge crush on her, he was like, obsessed with her (so she says) and she used to, at one point, have feelings for him too. But now, they SAY they are more like brother and sister now, and they are very close. And besides, my friend has a boyfriend...but he has been calling her every other night and they have been talking until about 2 oclock in the morning, and I have no idea what they talk about, but EVERY time I talk on the phone with Jake, he says something about my friend, like how awesome she is, or how much he misses her and shit like that. EVERY time. And every time I say something about how much Jake likes me to her, she always says something back about how much he used to like HER, like "Oh yeah he used to...blah blah blah to ME too" She always turns it around back on her so she's constantly reminding me of how he used have feelings for her. And this morning I was talking to her and said how me Jake stayed up until 3 in the morning on the phone and she was like, "Yeah he called me the other night too, i don't know what he was doing, but he was breathing really hard..." WTF??!?!? I mean..WTF?? what would she say that to me???? So I have my suspicions that something is going on between them....and it really hurts me everytime he mentions her. I feel...kinda low. I KNOW she has helped him through some crap, but I still feel like he has feelings for her, and I have no idea what they do or what they talk about on the phone late at night. Would she every do anything behind my back? Would HE? I don't know...I'd like to think not...he's probably very vulnerable around her because he used to have such strong feelings, and she KNOWS she has that power, and it bothers me. She seems a bit jealous of me and him. I don't know. PLEASE HELP. Should I confront him about it, and ask him if he still has feelings for her, and hope he doesn't lie? Or just I just grin and bear it and be crying inside everytime he talks about her or everytime she reminds me of how they used to be? help....