It looks as though I've taken somewhat of an hiatus from livejournal. I haven't really, but almost everything I have been writing I have been making private, which is normally really unlike me
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I know you didn't really ask for advice per se, but.. I'm just giving it b/c I'm a concerned friend.
Maybe stop intellectualizing your pain. All too often, especially in this society, and given the type of familial background one has, we all too often try to figure out what EXACTLY is causing us our problems. Sometimes it's everything. Sometimes it's nothing. Sometimes it's a little of everything, or just a little of something. For certain people, it could be any or all of, or none of these things.
My point is that you feel bad, and you have no 'justifiable' reason for it. I think that's fine. Not like, oh, it's okay that you feel that way. But just that I accept you as you are. Even if you're unhappy. And I'd hope you'd accept yourself that way, too. I don't care whether you have a reason or not for your pain, I just want you to feel better. For me to come up with every reason why I feel a certain way, sometimes it works and I feel better. Othertimes, it does nothing, and I feel worse not being able to find a reason for it. The point is, sometimes it is what it is. And leave it at that.
I'm tired, and rambling, probably making no sense.
Re: so..tired..sperenzaApril 16 2006, 20:46:43 UTC
I think I do accept myself for simply being a generally sad person. Depression really set in for me when I was about eleven or twelve...I thought it was just pre-teen, middle school angst, but it never really went away completely. Earlier on, there always used to be a very specific reason for why I felt the way I did. I started feeling depressed for no good reason when I was about fourteen, and I remember telling somebody that I just was feeling depressed for no reason at all, and he refuted that, saying that there had to be some sort of reason (not including a psychological culprit, which I'm assuming he either didn't believe in or wasn't familiar with).
Because my depression does feel situational (in the end, it almost always boils down to unfulfilled desires), I never really do anything about it, and my coping skills aren't the best.
I really appreciate your advice, and it didn't ramble and it made sense. And it wasn't long and/or preachy, either.
BTW, I bought you a copy of that magazine for you on Friday.
Re: so..tired..plasticjsusApril 17 2006, 07:42:20 UTC
Thanks. A lot of times I post these things, especially anytime at night, I have no idea if I'm making any sense. and thanks for the mag! I'll send it off whenever I get it to prompt the absinthe shipment. I might be up for DG tomorrow..depending on how I feel.
Maybe stop intellectualizing your pain. All too often, especially in this society, and given the type of familial background one has, we all too often try to figure out what EXACTLY is causing us our problems. Sometimes it's everything. Sometimes it's nothing. Sometimes it's a little of everything, or just a little of something. For certain people, it could be any or all of, or none of these things.
My point is that you feel bad, and you have no 'justifiable' reason for it. I think that's fine. Not like, oh, it's okay that you feel that way. But just that I accept you as you are. Even if you're unhappy. And I'd hope you'd accept yourself that way, too. I don't care whether you have a reason or not for your pain, I just want you to feel better. For me to come up with every reason why I feel a certain way, sometimes it works and I feel better. Othertimes, it does nothing, and I feel worse not being able to find a reason for it. The point is, sometimes it is what it is. And leave it at that.
I'm tired, and rambling, probably making no sense.
God, that was long and preachy.
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Because my depression does feel situational (in the end, it almost always boils down to unfulfilled desires), I never really do anything about it, and my coping skills aren't the best.
I really appreciate your advice, and it didn't ramble and it made sense. And it wasn't long and/or preachy, either.
BTW, I bought you a copy of that magazine for you on Friday.
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