Changes keep mounting --- Dad passed away, I talked to my brother in prison
My family's dysfunction really parades in a crisis. Not the one I made, but the family I come from. Only two relatives of Dad's are in the "inner circle" of contact, his grandkids from my brother in prison, and they didn't even notify their own father in prison.
I got my news by aggressing on Dad's pastor in Mountain View, Mo. And I was the only one contacting every other key relative: Dad's brother, sister, and both his sons, my brothers... And the ONLY one of these I have been ACKNOWLEDGED by for YEARS has been the brother in prison.
My father used to be Chief Appraiser of the Corps of Engineers when I was a child. He was also in charge of the missile base in Sedalia back in the '60's. And my oldest brother is CEO of his own company, manufacturing domestic robots. (The oldest brother was my primary perpetrator, sex abuse, when I was in gradeschool, and his life is fashioned around a non-stop territorial war, or alpha-wolf dominance war, with our father...)
My oldest brother curses Dad continuously as a deeply narccistic sadist. And my other brother, the 'middle' child, in prison, prays for Dad's soul and had written Dad before he died, warning him that God will not forgive people who are unforgiving, that Dad needs to forgive and make ammends...
The two 'orphans' of the brother in prison, the daughter whose sexual abuse resulted in my brother's imprisonment, and the younger brother --- they are 'running' Dad's arrangements for Memorial Services, etc., and have resolved to join Dad in the hate-game, and not contact any blood family.
So, will the pastor tell us in time when and where the Memorial Service will be? Only time will tell.
Meanwhile, all kinds of realignments are occurring with family on both MY side and Hubbyone's --- over recent deaths...