Cognitive dissonance in "Creepy" labels
This is a post about half of the people that I know. If this post is not about you then it is not about you.
Me: "A man with a horribly disfigured face makes most people uncomfortable just by going outside, let alone saying 'Good Morning' to anyone. Is he wrong to do so?"
You: "Of course not, it's not his fault or responsibility that people react negatively to him just because he looks weird, nor does he deserve punishment for it."
Them: "A hot guy did X. I caught his eye I gave him a wink. We're having drinks tonight, wish me luck."
Also You: "You go girl!", "Woo", "Get some", "Lucky!"
Them: "A guy did X. It made me uncomfortable."
Also You: "Ugh", "guys like that are creeps", "that's why I avoid [place X happens]"
You appear to be exhibiting cognitive dissonance. Your beliefs seem to be incompatible with each other. If you think there is some line to be drawn here that explains your apparently contradictory responses then I would very much like to know where that line is. I do not fault you for having emotional reactions to things. I do fault you for using your emotions as an excuse to treat people in ways that your other actions show you know are inappropriate.
Me: "A man with a horribly disfigured face makes most people uncomfortable just by going outside, let alone saying 'Good Morning' to anyone. Is he wrong to do so?"
You: "Of course not, it's not his fault or responsibility that people react negatively to him just because he looks weird, nor does he deserve punishment for it."
Them: "A hot guy did X. I caught his eye I gave him a wink. We're having drinks tonight, wish me luck."
Also You: "You go girl!", "Woo", "Get some", "Lucky!"
Them: "A guy did X. It made me uncomfortable."
Also You: "Ugh", "guys like that are creeps", "that's why I avoid [place X happens]"
You appear to be exhibiting cognitive dissonance. Your beliefs seem to be incompatible with each other. If you think there is some line to be drawn here that explains your apparently contradictory responses then I would very much like to know where that line is. I do not fault you for having emotional reactions to things. I do fault you for using your emotions as an excuse to treat people in ways that your other actions show you know are inappropriate.