Being creepy and rapey is not black and white

[sparr0]

I am not a rapist. I do not believe that I have ever engaged in sexual activity with someone without exercising an above-average degree of caution regarding any implicit consent and I regularly seek explicit and comprehensive consent during negotiation of potential intimate encounters. I have never engaged in sexual or intimate activity with

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[42itous]

I apologize that I don't have time to read this whole post today, but I wanted to say: I don't find you creepy and would not mind being on your hugs-without-verbal-permission list.

[nurrynur]

You can hug me (without the asking out loud part) (if you want to do that). I guess I'm in the 99% boat about hugs, at least. For the 1 time where you (hypothetically) come up to hug me and I failed to make the reciprocal interest-in-hug gestures and I didn't want it _AND_ I was unable to indicate that by words, facial expression, or body language (turn away, shake head) or I did indicate it but you hugged me anyway. there are the 99 times where i wanted a hug but was too shy/out of cope/feeling awkward enough that I couldn't ask