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His parents left on vacation for a week. During dinner I found myself sitting on his mom’s chair. It seems that the seating layout has always been the same in the household: the mother in the north, the first son in the south, the second son on the east and the father on the west.
The first son got married and does not stay home anymore. I sit on the southern chair since that day. It makes for a curious dinner arrangement since to the right of the second son is the mother and to her left is the husband. I think that the mother being on the north position says a lot about who wears the pants in this household. Indeed she does. She controls everything from finances to the color of the baseboard trimmings. Nothing is bought for the house without her consent and go signal, she is the customs at the gate, the chaperon on a date, the Dalmatian of the firehouse, the light bulb in the socket and the firewall to her family network.
Suffice to say, I am in a relationship with a mommy’s boy. Going back to the seating layout, he has his mom at his right. And everyone knows that right handed people tend to look to right for advice. I have noticed the mothering behavior since the beginning. The only thing nice about mommy’s boys is that they are genuinely nice people to be in relations with, that is, if you can deal with having the mother constantly there…hovering like an ape.
He tells her everything and I walk on tip toes not get in their rapport. Aside from her matriarchal disposition, she can be a genuinely nice person: caring, considerate, generous and let us not forget she is a mother. However, her generosity comes with a price…accepting too many things from her will be a favor owed later on. Her considerateness is just her rule in its softer version.
I am not sure if I can breathe in this. There are many more instances like he is 26 and still lives home. But for now we will see.
The first son got married and does not stay home anymore. I sit on the southern chair since that day. It makes for a curious dinner arrangement since to the right of the second son is the mother and to her left is the husband. I think that the mother being on the north position says a lot about who wears the pants in this household. Indeed she does. She controls everything from finances to the color of the baseboard trimmings. Nothing is bought for the house without her consent and go signal, she is the customs at the gate, the chaperon on a date, the Dalmatian of the firehouse, the light bulb in the socket and the firewall to her family network.
Suffice to say, I am in a relationship with a mommy’s boy. Going back to the seating layout, he has his mom at his right. And everyone knows that right handed people tend to look to right for advice. I have noticed the mothering behavior since the beginning. The only thing nice about mommy’s boys is that they are genuinely nice people to be in relations with, that is, if you can deal with having the mother constantly there…hovering like an ape.
He tells her everything and I walk on tip toes not get in their rapport. Aside from her matriarchal disposition, she can be a genuinely nice person: caring, considerate, generous and let us not forget she is a mother. However, her generosity comes with a price…accepting too many things from her will be a favor owed later on. Her considerateness is just her rule in its softer version.
I am not sure if I can breathe in this. There are many more instances like he is 26 and still lives home. But for now we will see.