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Welcome back. I'm just going to jump right into this months thought. As a Christian woman, I believe that it is important for me to "train" to be a great wife. That might sound a lot lamer than I actually intended it to, but basically, I am preparing myself to fully stand behind my husband. It might be extremely unfeminist of me to not want to be the top woman in my career field, but I feel like a successful, life long marriage is more important. Now that doesn't mean that I don't have my own career goals but I also feel like the man should be the breadwinner. He feels more respected and needed that way and why should I try to out do him? There is no one else in the world that I need to one up as long as my husband respects what I bring in. I also don't think that a marriage can be successful if you have two people with intense career goals. How do you decide whose is more important? Because it WILL come up if one of you needs to move. And when one gives up their dream, don't you think he or she will resent the other in the future for their life not turning out the way they wanted it to? So many times I hear people refer back to some decision they made that ultimately effected their current lives and I don't want that to be me. I don't want to blame my husbands career on me not being a top interior designer. I love interior design and it would be great to be the best, but not at the expense of my family.

Anyway, this is all a few years (as least) in the future. And perhaps I shouldn't be "worrying" about it, but as more and more of friends get engaged and married, it's just something I think about. I am so excited about the challenges that we'll face and how to tackle them. It really will be an exciting time, whenever that comes.