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I have paid work today. woo hoo! Their new building is not nearly as nice as the old one in my opinion. I am glad I am working from home, and not trying to settle in a smaller office without windows, set in a concrete parking lot. The other one had windows to the outside, and the outside offices had windows to the hall, so everyone could see out unless the resident closed the blinds. The parking lot was full of islands of tall mature trees. So, I get my own window office here at home.
My mortgage has been sold. I am bummed about that. My mortgage company said they sell less than 5% of their loans. why me? It could be fine, but I sometimes find that these little things can be big omens. Anyone have experience with MetLife? They may sell it again. It could begin a chain of events, or it could just sit still and get paid. In my paranoid fantasies they say, here's a chippie who is disorganized and may not get the automatic payments switched over at the right time. Let's see if we can start getting some late fees!
Things have been going well with Ben. We had counseling two weeks in a row, but now won't see him again for 3 weeks. I expect we can keep things mellow for that long. We talked about how the right space between us is crucial. My thoughts are that the 10 miles between our homes is a very difficult spacing indeed. At times, 3 houses was too little, but even the 5 miles to the old place was difficult and awkward. We have to deal with it. I am not selling my house, and his apartment is very nice to have on the hill. so, I am grateful we have a counselor who has helped us so much. we all came over here yesterday for dinner and for me to spend time with K, but then he took her back with him so I could have my morning to work. The challenge of 10 miles is that we don't get short visits like that. Then K is up past bedtime. Now it is okay, but in the school year, bed time is more important. It's like an hour of travel for how long of a visit? It requires a lot more commitment, and makes any visiting require a plan. This is our weakness. When we were neighbors, everything was spontaneous, and that was easier.
We were talking about how in a dating profile, the more specific arbitrary requirements, the better. To narrow down the field. So I thought of this one: I want a guy who plays Slayer, Metallica, and Black Sabbath on the acoustic guitar. Those were like a dime a dozen back in 1990! or maybe not. what do I know.
I have some good photos but I have not posted them online. So, maybe I will upload one or two of them as userpics. have a good hump day! (speaking of which, my libido is way too high right now.)
My mortgage has been sold. I am bummed about that. My mortgage company said they sell less than 5% of their loans. why me? It could be fine, but I sometimes find that these little things can be big omens. Anyone have experience with MetLife? They may sell it again. It could begin a chain of events, or it could just sit still and get paid. In my paranoid fantasies they say, here's a chippie who is disorganized and may not get the automatic payments switched over at the right time. Let's see if we can start getting some late fees!
Things have been going well with Ben. We had counseling two weeks in a row, but now won't see him again for 3 weeks. I expect we can keep things mellow for that long. We talked about how the right space between us is crucial. My thoughts are that the 10 miles between our homes is a very difficult spacing indeed. At times, 3 houses was too little, but even the 5 miles to the old place was difficult and awkward. We have to deal with it. I am not selling my house, and his apartment is very nice to have on the hill. so, I am grateful we have a counselor who has helped us so much. we all came over here yesterday for dinner and for me to spend time with K, but then he took her back with him so I could have my morning to work. The challenge of 10 miles is that we don't get short visits like that. Then K is up past bedtime. Now it is okay, but in the school year, bed time is more important. It's like an hour of travel for how long of a visit? It requires a lot more commitment, and makes any visiting require a plan. This is our weakness. When we were neighbors, everything was spontaneous, and that was easier.
We were talking about how in a dating profile, the more specific arbitrary requirements, the better. To narrow down the field. So I thought of this one: I want a guy who plays Slayer, Metallica, and Black Sabbath on the acoustic guitar. Those were like a dime a dozen back in 1990! or maybe not. what do I know.
I have some good photos but I have not posted them online. So, maybe I will upload one or two of them as userpics. have a good hump day! (speaking of which, my libido is way too high right now.)