Hypocrisy

Apr 09, 2007 22:14


I felt ironically dirty after a conversation on rape turned to incoherent backpeddaling complete with his arm around me and repeated use of the word "baby."  Even worse, I feel dirty for slowly inching away rather than shoving him off of me and screaming, "Piss off, motherfucker!  I'm not your baby!"

Where-oh-where has my assertiveness gone?  I ( Read more... )

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sugarblind April 10 2007, 16:25:19 UTC
Men. Don't. Get it.

Will showed up at my house like FOUR TIMES after raping, impregnating, and ignoring me. Once with his kid, all acting like everything was cool and we could be friends.

I hate men.

Don't blame yourself. You can't be blamed for not wanting to make a fuss. He said some stupid shit, called you "baby" a bunch of times, and held on to you. Men are dumb-- they just don't understand that once you've talked about rape with a woman, you can't just expect any fuckup to be resolved with the word "baby" and an arm around your shoulders. We get really schizy after that conversation.

Fuck him. Love you.

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sparkless April 10 2007, 18:07:44 UTC
This is what I love about you. I barely pen all the details and still you know exactly where I'm coming from.

I'll give you a tasty little tidbit from last evening,

"Men who are raped in jail want to be raped. The dudes [yes, I'm fairly certain he used the word 'dudes'] who rape them can sense that they are gay also."

And. Scene.

You should have heard me in class. As he was talking, my reaction was purely visceral. I twitched in my seat before half-coherently interrupting him. The entire class turned to me in awe; I'm not usually one to lose my composure. I should have liked to see it caught on tape.

LOVE!

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sugarblind April 10 2007, 18:18:20 UTC
WHAT??? What a complete, unadulterated, pure DICKHEAD!!!

He needs to talk to a man who's actually BEEN in jail. Rape is NOT a "gay thing" and it's not a "gaydar" thing! It's the same among caged men as it is among caged animals: dominance.

They don't RAPE each other for sexual gratification, most of the time. (There are always the psychos.) They establish dominance in a horrific, intrusive, damaging way. Cats do it. Dogs do it. Men do it. It's horrible and unconscionable to rape another person, but prison rape comes from a completely different place most of the time.

I seriously would love to know what he'd say if you asked him "So if you went to jail and got raped, that would mean you're gay?"

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sparkless April 10 2007, 18:45:46 UTC
The clincher? He is a SOCIAL WORK MAJOR. Nothing says empathy quite like that fail-safe logic!

Damn, I wish I would have thought to ask him that. I may have buckled under the pressure of his nasty arm, but I have no doubt that I would have said something like that had I thought of it.

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sugarblind April 10 2007, 19:02:09 UTC
The kind of social worker that ignores the kid who says he's being beaten and abused by the idiots who took him in for the check that came with him. The kind of social worker who rolls his eyes when the "deadbeat dad" tells him that he hasn't been able to find a job within walking distance. The kind of social worker who interrupts his patient to tell her exactly how she SHOULD be doing things, rather than listening to her. (I actually had one "therapist" do that.)

Next time, dear. Next time. You can't be expected to wear that expression of horrified disgust AND think of witty remarks.

You're wonderful and smart and talented and I am SO PROUD of you. F him.

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sparkless April 10 2007, 23:40:28 UTC
Exactly. I swear, they'd let cattle in the program if they could.

*beams*

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