The need to call out homophobia
One of the many many things about homophobia that make me rage is how readily tolerated it is - and how ready people are to excuse it, defend it and deny it.
It saddens me that I need to repeat this - but, if you think gay people are worth less than straight people, if you think we deserve less than straight people, if you think we don’t have the ( Read more... )
Precisely my point, and I'm not talking about willful ignorance. I get where you're coming from, I agree sometimes anger is called for, I agree none of us are saints, and I know full well my temper has blown too at times. However, I think when it was uncalled-for in response to some subjective detail the other person *could not have known* beforehand, I owe them an apology, and not vice-versa. It's not fair, IMO, to make someone who simply doesn't know responsible for damage inflicted by those who really are willfully ignorant, and thereby make excuses for my own rudeness and inappropriate behavior - that's just childish. Fact is, people are being intimidated and silenced who (IMO) should not be, and that's a sad thing. And fact is, if I'm behaving like an ass, then people who would have stopped to understand me won't be willing to listen anymore, and some of them will end up hating me. But they won't hate me because I'm queer, they'll hate me because I'm being an ass.
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