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Relationship
Before you get involved and make a commitment to
someone, don't let lust, desperation,
immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a
low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open and don't fool yourself that
you can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time
their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and
differences will become more obvious. If you
love your mate and want the relationship to grow
and evolve, you've got to learn not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different
expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams,
weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique
individuals who have decided to share a life
together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect
for each other? Do you bring out the best of
each other? Do you compliment and compromise
with each other, or do you compete, compare, and
control? What do you bring to the relationship?
You can't make someone love you or make
someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't
find yourself making someone else responsible
for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a
thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are
the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What
keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of
humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway
time without business. Leave a nice message on
their voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing growth is important. Grow together, not away
from each other, giving each other space to grow
without feeling insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interest. You
can't always be together. Give each other a
sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don't try to control one another. Learn each
other's family situation. Don't put pressure on each
other for material goods. Remember for richer or
for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the
relationship will erode as resentment,
withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain
replace the passion. " Nurture your mind with great
thoughts, for you will never go any higher than
you think.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is
where you put the i. Life is not measured by the
number of breaths we take, but by the moments
that take our breath away.
Before you get involved and make a commitment to
someone, don't let lust, desperation,
immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a
low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs.
Keep your eyes open and don't fool yourself that
you can change someone or that what you see as
faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time
their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and
differences will become more obvious. If you
love your mate and want the relationship to grow
and evolve, you've got to learn not let every little thing bother you.
You and your mate have many different
expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams,
weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique
individuals who have decided to share a life
together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect
for each other? Do you bring out the best of
each other? Do you compliment and compromise
with each other, or do you compete, compare, and
control? What do you bring to the relationship?
You can't make someone love you or make
someone stay. If you develop self-esteem,
spiritual discernment, and "a life," you won't
find yourself making someone else responsible
for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and
selfishness are not the ingredients of a
thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.
Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are
the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What
keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of
humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway
time without business. Leave a nice message on
their voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing growth is important. Grow together, not away
from each other, giving each other space to grow
without feeling insecure.
Allow your mate to have outside interest. You
can't always be together. Give each other a
sense of belonging and assurances of commitment.
Don't try to control one another. Learn each
other's family situation. Don't put pressure on each
other for material goods. Remember for richer or
for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the
relationship will erode as resentment,
withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain
replace the passion. " Nurture your mind with great
thoughts, for you will never go any higher than
you think.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is
where you put the i. Life is not measured by the
number of breaths we take, but by the moments
that take our breath away.