Fear and Loathing in San Antonio
So by the way, anyone who has ever seen "Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas" will realize how F@%!#$ up that movie is.
Anyway, I'll admit it. For the first time ever, I will openly and publicly admit in writing that I am terrified of telling my parents that my fiance has a child. My mother likes Robert. My father is not so sure. My brother and ( Read more... )
Anyway, I'll admit it. For the first time ever, I will openly and publicly admit in writing that I am terrified of telling my parents that my fiance has a child. My mother likes Robert. My father is not so sure. My brother and ( Read more... )
I've thought about being there with him, too. Ideally, I would have liked to do it long ago, but my parents have an idea that a "sit down talk" is more like a "bombardment." My mother likes Robert a lot more than my father, but hates "bombardment", and we agree that she would be more likely to remain calm with him than with me.
And I've tried to tell them several times. But my parents don't listen well. I say something like, "I want to talk to you guys about something, and they start in with things like, "What? Are you pregnant? I hope you're not pregnant. What would your dead grandmother think? Think of what my father will say about me." Seriously. No joke. Even before I have said a word. So I end up being too scared to say anything, and there are tears...etc...just from the intimidation.
Anything that even remotely distorts their picture of an ideal situation turns their whole world upside down. They fail to see how difficult it is to talk to them about ANYTHING....
For example, when my first serious boyfriend broke up with me (I was 14) and I came home crying, my mother surely drilled out of me why I was crying, but couldn't understand why I was so upset that he broke up with me...unless it was because I had slept with him. (I hadn't, but it only made it worse for me that she didn't give a damn....instead she just made it worse by lecturing me.) My parents are...to say the least...rather victorian and cold when it comes to important matters. They are the kind who would rather ignore things than admit that they exist.
Don't worry. I appreciate your comments. :)
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