"I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request."
Alright, I've had it. I'm sick and tired of hearing everyone's opinions on how they think I should be doing things. I have been accommodating and gracious this whole time and maybe that's where I went wrong. Maybe I should have been an immovable bitch this whole time and I'd be able to sleep at night. The stress of trying to please everyone AND still have the wedding of my dreams is giving me chest pains and insomnia.
It seems as though his family has no hesitation about asking me to cater to their needs, but when I make a decision to do something my way, I get a barrage of complaining and "suggestions." These people are sweet and wonderful most of the time, but this wedding has turned them into self-centered grumblers. I feel bad for being so harsh with Mom at the beginning because my clashes with her have been nothing compared to the crap I've been getting from everyone else. Every week, it's something: "Add these 15 people neither of you have met to the guest list," "Aunt so-and-so would prefer that her son wear his grey suit rather than a tux," "Are you arranging for someone to do my makeup?" "Why wasn't Great Aunt blah blah blah invited to your shower?" Even the flower girl has a list of demands! Hello people- this is about US! Why is that concept so hard to grasp?? Now I understand why people hop a plane to Vegas. Well, that's enough! I've made the decision to let all of the BS just flow through me until the wedding day. I'm not tending to one more need unless it's my own. No more Ms. Nice Bride. I've gone above and beyond to make everyone feel special and involved and it's time they recognize that. I'm putting my foot down and setting boundaries- this is how I mean to go on in this family, so it's time they learn how I handle controversy.
Can we please just skip to the wedding day and the honeymoon?
It seems as though his family has no hesitation about asking me to cater to their needs, but when I make a decision to do something my way, I get a barrage of complaining and "suggestions." These people are sweet and wonderful most of the time, but this wedding has turned them into self-centered grumblers. I feel bad for being so harsh with Mom at the beginning because my clashes with her have been nothing compared to the crap I've been getting from everyone else. Every week, it's something: "Add these 15 people neither of you have met to the guest list," "Aunt so-and-so would prefer that her son wear his grey suit rather than a tux," "Are you arranging for someone to do my makeup?" "Why wasn't Great Aunt blah blah blah invited to your shower?" Even the flower girl has a list of demands! Hello people- this is about US! Why is that concept so hard to grasp?? Now I understand why people hop a plane to Vegas. Well, that's enough! I've made the decision to let all of the BS just flow through me until the wedding day. I'm not tending to one more need unless it's my own. No more Ms. Nice Bride. I've gone above and beyond to make everyone feel special and involved and it's time they recognize that. I'm putting my foot down and setting boundaries- this is how I mean to go on in this family, so it's time they learn how I handle controversy.
Can we please just skip to the wedding day and the honeymoon?