It's been awhile, mudflapgirl72. Always good to hear from you.
That's what i've heard-that the brain is the largest sex organ. But how so? It just gets tricky when trying to determine what is actually mentally derived and what is, you know, hormonally derived.
There are so many individual differences when it comes to arousal....in what ways do you think the brain plays a part?
It's really very complicated, but for starters there's the endochrin and nervous systems. The brain controls those. Ever heard of a paraplegic losing all feeling below the waste? He has the sexual desire, but the impulses are cut off from reaching their destination.
Another example, the frigid housewife. She's too much in her head to let go and enjoy or perhaps her partner is abusive so she's lost all interest in sex.
Ever heard of ED? Erectile dysfunction? Psychological in most cases.
I could go on for days, but I gotta go to work. Heh.
This issue is often related to conditioning, don't you think? I'd say the images and ideas one has grown up around influence him or her the most.
in my case, being taught to inhibit the sexual response caused me to not be as responsive in everyday situations, a case of the brain overriding the body.
What one person finds to be a turn-on can be totally different from another person's turn-on. Do you have any particular sexual turn-ons you feel are your own, derived from your conditioning and not from your basic identity as a female, biologically speaking?
I think sexual turn-ons are a bit of both, nature and nurture. I can't think of anything particular at the moment. i know I don't care for cunnilingis because I was abused in that way as a child. I'm attracted to smart men, maybe because my family is above average. I like guys with buzzed hair because one of my past lovers had buzzed hair. Heh. I like fucking on webcam or in front of other people. Is that because I was looked at by my abuser? Or am I just wired that way? A bit of both? Don't know. My parents are pretty uptight about sex and so was the church I grew up in and I was uptight as well for awhile, but I outgrew that and no longer subscribe to their ideals.
When I was married the first time I could not enjoy oral. He insisted on doing it even though it brought me to tears. He said he enjoyed it so much, he didn't take me into consideration at all. Since then I have had wonderful relations with other men. The parent child dynamic I had with my ex did not exist with these other men. I braced myself to be disturbed by oral but found that it was not always the case. I am still hesitant at times to accept it, but as long as I feel in control then it is good.
I haven't kept up with the journals online so I am a bit out of touch. Are you still married? I recall you mentioned your first husband some time ago. But then you remarried. Right? Is the second husband (if you're still married) more considerate of your needs and feelings?
Of course, if oral is unpleasant, don't do it. but within the context of this topic, it's just interesting how powerful mental and emotional issues are in relation to the body.
I like to feel that in many ways I am free of inhibitions from my past but I know that's not so. And these issues have nothing to do with the natural responses of my hormones or my sex drive. But they can play havoc with both.
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That's what i've heard-that the brain is the largest sex organ. But how so? It just gets tricky when trying to determine what is actually mentally derived and what is, you know, hormonally derived.
There are so many individual differences when it comes to arousal....in what ways do you think the brain plays a part?
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Another example, the frigid housewife. She's too much in her head to let go and enjoy or perhaps her partner is abusive so she's lost all interest in sex.
Ever heard of ED? Erectile dysfunction? Psychological in most cases.
I could go on for days, but I gotta go to work. Heh.
I highly recommend a sexual psychology course.
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This issue is often related to conditioning, don't you think? I'd say the images and ideas one has grown up around influence him or her the most.
in my case, being taught to inhibit the sexual response caused me to not be as responsive in everyday situations, a case of the brain overriding the body.
What one person finds to be a turn-on can be totally different from another person's turn-on. Do you have any particular sexual turn-ons you feel are your own, derived from your conditioning and not from your basic identity as a female, biologically speaking?
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Of course, if oral is unpleasant, don't do it. but within the context of this topic, it's just interesting how powerful mental and emotional issues are in relation to the body.
I like to feel that in many ways I am free of inhibitions from my past but I know that's not so. And these issues have nothing to do with the natural responses of my hormones or my sex drive. But they can play havoc with both.
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