Do we block our own sexual fulfilment?
We all know that intimacy and a loving, emotional connection with our partner is the most important thing. We know there is no greater turn on than how we are treated, especially if we're treated with love and respect. But if we do not love ourselves first, just as we are, with our perceived faults and shortcomings, can we love another? I have discovered that my orgasmic potential has a lot to do with my ability to open up and accept myself, my needs and desires in this moment.
They say women are not visual. I am. They say women always need romance to fan the flames of sexual desire. Not me, not always. I do not always fit into the stereotypes. I find that trying to fit into stereotypes limits me, blocks the full expression of joy I am capable of feeling and opening up to. So lets discover where we are first....not where we think we're supposed to be.
A place to start: a simple enjoyment of the nude. a visual appreciation of the male form. Not necessarily my primary method of fantasizing about men. But I can and often do enjoy the simple beauty of a male form. Are you like some of my friends, they say male nudity just "doesn't do it for me," they stare but are "unresponsive, " "just not into it," "need more than this," etc.. Ok, different strokes for different folks. But hey...wait a second...
Do we block our natural instincts and reactions in this way? By forcing myself to respond only in the "right" ways, based on how I've been taught to respond, I can't experience whatever comes up, exactly how I do feel. Not such a leap from there to imagine other women in the same predicament as I, experiencing less of life, less of the natural rhythm that is their own orgasmic potential. Is it easy for you to respond to the simplicity of the human form? Is your sexual response complex and involved or simple and enthusiastic?
They say women are not visual. I am. They say women always need romance to fan the flames of sexual desire. Not me, not always. I do not always fit into the stereotypes. I find that trying to fit into stereotypes limits me, blocks the full expression of joy I am capable of feeling and opening up to. So lets discover where we are first....not where we think we're supposed to be.
A place to start: a simple enjoyment of the nude. a visual appreciation of the male form. Not necessarily my primary method of fantasizing about men. But I can and often do enjoy the simple beauty of a male form. Are you like some of my friends, they say male nudity just "doesn't do it for me," they stare but are "unresponsive, " "just not into it," "need more than this," etc.. Ok, different strokes for different folks. But hey...wait a second...
Do we block our natural instincts and reactions in this way? By forcing myself to respond only in the "right" ways, based on how I've been taught to respond, I can't experience whatever comes up, exactly how I do feel. Not such a leap from there to imagine other women in the same predicament as I, experiencing less of life, less of the natural rhythm that is their own orgasmic potential. Is it easy for you to respond to the simplicity of the human form? Is your sexual response complex and involved or simple and enthusiastic?