I've always felt there was a disservice done to men by the second-wave feminist movement, that I'm not sure I can explain adequately without coming-off like some mysogynist pig. There always seemed to be an expectation that men had to change the very essence of what it meant to be a man. In a nutshell, we were expected to be more like women and the reverse of the scenario was just stupid and silly, because our way was wrong.
I'm a woman, and I always kind of felt the same way, in a sense. I've never really felt attracted to these "new" men, and there are a lot of them my age right now (nearing 30). I tend to prefer old-fashioned "manly" men to these sensitive types who cry and feel hurt by everything I say and just don't know how to deal with life.
While I'm all for equality as much as the next gal, at heart I'm the type of woman who, in a sense, enjoys the notion of the 1950's pseudo-ideal - I'd be the type of wife who would want to work part-time in the morning, so that I could be home in time to make dinner and have a martini ready at the door for my husband. I like to spoil men. But unfortunately, I've run into many women who think that I'm some sort of insult to our gender because I wouldn't force my husband to do his own laundry or help with the dishes, and because the way some women treat/talk to their husbands these days makes me cringe and wonder how the hell these pushy broads found husbands in the first place.
Hopefully this makes sense. I'm running on next to no sleep, and coherent thoughts aren't readily available at the moment.
Also, I liked Boondock Saints II - not as much as the first, naturally, but I enjoyed it. Particularly that part :)
And now we have a generation of kids being raised by the the "new" men. What's interesting to me is that the shift the other way, where women are becoming more masculine, seems to be in some respects a way to fill the gap, and why I'm hoping there will be a settling in the middle eventually. Look at film and television. How many times in the past, oh 3-5 years, have you heard a female character tell a male to nut/sack/man up?
I think a man should be in touch with his feelings. But the notion of the truly "sensitive man" has largely been rejected by most women, despite it still being listed earnestly by some women as a desirable trait. In fact, I think -most- women tend to lose respect for a man who wears his heart on his sleeve all the time.
I'm a woman, and I always kind of felt the same way, in a sense. I've never really felt attracted to these "new" men, and there are a lot of them my age right now (nearing 30). I tend to prefer old-fashioned "manly" men to these sensitive types who cry and feel hurt by everything I say and just don't know how to deal with life.
While I'm all for equality as much as the next gal, at heart I'm the type of woman who, in a sense, enjoys the notion of the 1950's pseudo-ideal - I'd be the type of wife who would want to work part-time in the morning, so that I could be home in time to make dinner and have a martini ready at the door for my husband. I like to spoil men. But unfortunately, I've run into many women who think that I'm some sort of insult to our gender because I wouldn't force my husband to do his own laundry or help with the dishes, and because the way some women treat/talk to their husbands these days makes me cringe and wonder how the hell these pushy broads found husbands in the first place.
Hopefully this makes sense. I'm running on next to no sleep, and coherent thoughts aren't readily available at the moment.
Also, I liked Boondock Saints II - not as much as the first, naturally, but I enjoyed it. Particularly that part :)
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I think a man should be in touch with his feelings. But the notion of the truly "sensitive man" has largely been rejected by most women, despite it still being listed earnestly by some women as a desirable trait. In fact, I think -most- women tend to lose respect for a man who wears his heart on his sleeve all the time.
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