I saw Welf's entry this morning, and I agree, it's one of her best writings. The courage she demonstrated by not only writing it, but by posting it publicly was amazing to me.
I am sorry that you are both going through this -- I have watched your romance blossom from almost the start of it, and I know that you have a connection that most of us only dream of. I hope you both find your way through this, and reach a level for your relationship that you can both be happy with. xxx
Thank you. As I mentioned in an earlier entry, we've been at this crossroads for a little while. I think it's a natural point in the progression of all relationships. The question just becomes do we pick a road to go down together or not.
Eh, I'm not that brave. I've been writing about this stuff for weeks now in a highly filtered circle of friends. I made "the move" on Monday and have been hedging on whether or not to inform the f-list at-large about our predicament or just let everyone think everything was ok until we knew something more certain...
...I didn't find the courage to do that until I read Welf's entry this morning.
I try... but I'm no saint either. I just try to treat people decently and respectfully, unless they give me some reason to make me think they don't deserve my decency or respect. Welf has been nothing but honest with me, as I her. I can't fault her for her feelings, or fears, or doubts. I can only love her, and try to give her the room she needs to figure it out.
I read both entries, hers and yours. I'm sorry you are both at this place in time and hope things work out for the best.
You are both excellent writers and even though the situation is difficult, I enjoyed reading because you both express yourselves so well.
1 Corinthians 13 and Matthew 7 are two of my favorite bible passage as well. I have quoted "Judge not, lest you be judged" many times when it was appropriate.
We're peas in a pod with concern to our decisions to study writing at the collegiate level; then do nothing accept gather a small audience for a blog and hopefully entertain or touch someone here or there.
I hope everything works out for the best, too. I haven't given-up hope and I don't view this a conclusion. It is certainly an ending, and ending to the kind of shuttered, idyllic romance we've had for the past two years. With endings though, there is the possibility for a new beginning, a new era; one that is stronger and more enduring. That's my hope anyway.
Of course the flipside of hope is fear. All you can do is not let yourself be consumed by it.
Unfortunately, romantic love is often nothing like the passage from Corinthians. A relationship based on agape is entirely different to a relationship based on eros (which doesn't get a mention in the entire New Testament) or even philia.
Eros is powerful but mercurial, swiftly found and swiftly lost. It can change the course of your life yet leave you without direction. Philia is longer lasting, but it isn't life-changing. Agape lacks the power of emotion because it is based on conscious choice rather than attraction, but it can become a lifestyle.
Where we get into trouble is when we find someone in our lives who represents all of those philosophical views about love. That's where she and I are, presently.
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I am sorry that you are both going through this -- I have watched your romance blossom from almost the start of it, and I know that you have a connection that most of us only dream of. I hope you both find your way through this, and reach a level for your relationship that you can both be happy with. xxx
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I always look at your entries with amusement and pride. I love the way you express yourself.
You have my warm thoughts that things will improve between you and W...and yes...faith...and hope...and love.
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...I didn't find the courage to do that until I read Welf's entry this morning.
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You're a good man, mister.
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You are both excellent writers and even though the situation is difficult, I enjoyed reading because you both express yourselves so well.
1 Corinthians 13 and Matthew 7 are two of my favorite bible passage as well. I have quoted "Judge not, lest you be judged" many times when it was appropriate.
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I hope everything works out for the best, too. I haven't given-up hope and I don't view this a conclusion. It is certainly an ending, and ending to the kind of shuttered, idyllic romance we've had for the past two years. With endings though, there is the possibility for a new beginning, a new era; one that is stronger and more enduring. That's my hope anyway.
Of course the flipside of hope is fear. All you can do is not let yourself be consumed by it.
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Eros is powerful but mercurial, swiftly found and swiftly lost. It can change the course of your life yet leave you without direction. Philia is longer lasting, but it isn't life-changing. Agape lacks the power of emotion because it is based on conscious choice rather than attraction, but it can become a lifestyle.
I wish you and Welfy all the best.
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