I've Been Inspired
I can honestly say that few things are as wonderful as reading the blog of a friend. My former college roomie & "husband" formerly LJ user, Pinacoconut7, writes a blog that I anticipate reading. Is it only because I love her & think she's awesome? I really don't think so. She amuses me and makes me think. For example, my post about church & religion was written as a direct response to a post she wrote in her blog. I couldn't NOT write after the feelings it churned up for me.
This inspires me to want to write in here about more than just my unexciting life. Either that or I'
inspired to embellish my unexciting life to make it sound way better or interesting enough to read about, at least. What I do envy about her blog is that she is so witty and clever.
I drive 35 minutes each way to work, and from time to time, I have found myself devising my own clever, witty entries for my LJ. But by the time I get home I have either forgotten my well-articulated musings or have lost the energy with which to write them. With that being said, let us turn our attention to the second inspiration for my writing today....
The Perils of Being a Step-Parent (or future one, as it may be)
This weekend, we have Amber. I can name only a very few occasions where a situations such as this has occurred. At the risk of sounding like an incredible bitch on her way to he'll, Scott decided to go out and have a couple beers with his buddies leaving me in charge. Now, I'm sure I'm not the only step-parent who has had...issues, shall we say? In fact, many situations are WAY worse than mine, but Scott couldn't understand why I was upset that he was going to go. I tried to explain that it was because he didn't even ask me. A few hours earlier, he had to take the motorcycle over to a friend's house for him to take pictures (he's tryin to sell it & his buddy was going in to work & wanted to take pictures to show a guy he works with). This was going to take an hour or less and he said (and I quote), "Do you mind?" No, not at all thank you for asking!
Regardless of the fact that I have no life and I never go anywhere or do anything, I do not think it's fair to just assume step-parent or not. Am I right or just a horrible human being? I can't decide. No, I don't mind, but at the same time, why ask your child to come spend the weekend if you are not going to be present the entire time? I do love her and care about her, but I'm not going to take the initiative to have her stay if he won't be home. Because of her epilepsy, having her here is a lot of work. They've changed her meds again, and she gets medicine at 12 AM, 4 AM, 6AM, & 8 AM (and the pattern continues throughout the daytime hours, as well). It's exhausting & it requires extensive planning to go anywhere or do anything.
Maybe I am just selfish & awful, but the bottom line is this. You don't ask your child to come stay the weekend (your significant other's time for rest & relaxation), and then choose to go out- even for only a couple hours- without asking the significant other if she minds. Because even if she DOES mind, she wi do it anyway because she loves you. She just wants to feel appreciated and does not like to be taken for granted.
This inspires me to want to write in here about more than just my unexciting life. Either that or I'
inspired to embellish my unexciting life to make it sound way better or interesting enough to read about, at least. What I do envy about her blog is that she is so witty and clever.
I drive 35 minutes each way to work, and from time to time, I have found myself devising my own clever, witty entries for my LJ. But by the time I get home I have either forgotten my well-articulated musings or have lost the energy with which to write them. With that being said, let us turn our attention to the second inspiration for my writing today....
The Perils of Being a Step-Parent (or future one, as it may be)
This weekend, we have Amber. I can name only a very few occasions where a situations such as this has occurred. At the risk of sounding like an incredible bitch on her way to he'll, Scott decided to go out and have a couple beers with his buddies leaving me in charge. Now, I'm sure I'm not the only step-parent who has had...issues, shall we say? In fact, many situations are WAY worse than mine, but Scott couldn't understand why I was upset that he was going to go. I tried to explain that it was because he didn't even ask me. A few hours earlier, he had to take the motorcycle over to a friend's house for him to take pictures (he's tryin to sell it & his buddy was going in to work & wanted to take pictures to show a guy he works with). This was going to take an hour or less and he said (and I quote), "Do you mind?" No, not at all thank you for asking!
Regardless of the fact that I have no life and I never go anywhere or do anything, I do not think it's fair to just assume step-parent or not. Am I right or just a horrible human being? I can't decide. No, I don't mind, but at the same time, why ask your child to come spend the weekend if you are not going to be present the entire time? I do love her and care about her, but I'm not going to take the initiative to have her stay if he won't be home. Because of her epilepsy, having her here is a lot of work. They've changed her meds again, and she gets medicine at 12 AM, 4 AM, 6AM, & 8 AM (and the pattern continues throughout the daytime hours, as well). It's exhausting & it requires extensive planning to go anywhere or do anything.
Maybe I am just selfish & awful, but the bottom line is this. You don't ask your child to come stay the weekend (your significant other's time for rest & relaxation), and then choose to go out- even for only a couple hours- without asking the significant other if she minds. Because even if she DOES mind, she wi do it anyway because she loves you. She just wants to feel appreciated and does not like to be taken for granted.