Big vs. Small
*sigh*
yendi's an introvert, and I'm an extrovert, and therein lies the problem.
We've been fiddling with wedding plans. He originally wanted to limit the guest list to 25 people - until I gently reminded him that our immediate family consists of 24. So that was upped to 50.
Our original plan was to have a backyard wedding, if we got the house we were looking at. We didn't, so now we have to find a location. I refuse to have a hotel wedding; I did once before, and it sucked ass. It also sucked ass that I was surrounded not by my friends, but by my mother's friends.
This time, I want a wedding for me; I want a big party with all of my friends. I want morenasangre to meet sibylla, I want tsarinanic to meet vidicon, I want all of my friends. 25 friends is just not enough. There are so many people that are really important to us.
And if we get a site where we can pay a flat fee instead of a per-head, I really want this. I mean really, the only change will be amount of food, but albumlady cooks for a small army anyway.
But yendi's an introvert. And it's his wedding too.
So we're looking at compromise; we're looking at neither of us having the wedding we really want. And I hate that, for him and for me.
The original idea was to have a small formal wedding, then a big party the following weekend - but why not just have the party then and there, if there's going to be a big party anyway?
I dunno. This needs serious thought.
yendi's an introvert, and I'm an extrovert, and therein lies the problem.
We've been fiddling with wedding plans. He originally wanted to limit the guest list to 25 people - until I gently reminded him that our immediate family consists of 24. So that was upped to 50.
Our original plan was to have a backyard wedding, if we got the house we were looking at. We didn't, so now we have to find a location. I refuse to have a hotel wedding; I did once before, and it sucked ass. It also sucked ass that I was surrounded not by my friends, but by my mother's friends.
This time, I want a wedding for me; I want a big party with all of my friends. I want morenasangre to meet sibylla, I want tsarinanic to meet vidicon, I want all of my friends. 25 friends is just not enough. There are so many people that are really important to us.
And if we get a site where we can pay a flat fee instead of a per-head, I really want this. I mean really, the only change will be amount of food, but albumlady cooks for a small army anyway.
But yendi's an introvert. And it's his wedding too.
So we're looking at compromise; we're looking at neither of us having the wedding we really want. And I hate that, for him and for me.
The original idea was to have a small formal wedding, then a big party the following weekend - but why not just have the party then and there, if there's going to be a big party anyway?
I dunno. This needs serious thought.