Oct 20, 2004 14:59
There was this guy on Oprah the other day. He wrote a book called "he's just not that into you", which I am sure you have all heard about. In watching the show I was struck by the sense of relief that these women felt when hearing those 6 little words. One by one, each woman would tell her horror story, "We were dating for a few weeks and he seemed really into me and then one day he just stopped calling and never returns my calls" and then they turn to Oprah and say "what am I doing wrong? " and the answer would come back "well he is just not that into you" and the audience would cheer and these women would have this huge smile on their faces as if to say ohhhh I can finaly stop thinking about this now......
WHAT ?? HELLO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "he is just not that into you" may be a reason but it in no way excuses the way these men are treating these women...... so if a guy, who seemed interested, stopes calling me out of the blue, I am just suposed to assume, its not his fault he is just not that into me ?
I can't tell you the amount of craziness I have been hering lately almost every girl I know has started dating a guy who just disapears ..... it's almost as if guys our age are freaking out about the idea that we are getting older and people are starting to settled down. They think that all women are out there looking for a husband, so they start to date a girl and relize they don't really like her and run as far and as fast as possible in the other direction, to avoid the tears and the screaming. Men can not accept the idea that a women could be in it just for the sex ... or that women are also testing the waters and that they are unsure and scared too. We don't care if you are "just not that into us" but at least have the decendy to call or let us know ...... make up some lame excuse but be honest about the fact that it is over .... trust me we won't fall apart... we will just move on.