Stupidity is a gift from God too, we just have to be careful not to misuse it.
To answer a very stupid girl her very stupid question:
It only takes being hurt once to know that you need to let them go and walk away.
Get fucking real.
Things fail for a reason.Those were your words were they not? Give someone else a chance to be happy. We are in our 20's!!!! Who wants to be married or tied down now? We have our whole lives to dedicate to ourselves, yet we continue to define ourselves by the people we date or "love". Love in your teens and 20's is just a big build up to an even bigger let down. I feel like I am crazy because I dont sit around obsessing about the fact that I am incomplete because I am single. I live for me, I choose to live for myself. I choose to be single, and even more I choose to give whatever love I have to those who have given love to me. Like my family, my wonderful family that finally seems normal after many many painful years of alcohol, abuse and disillusionment. Or my friends, some of whom I have known for nearly FIFTEEN years. Fifteen loooong years of growing up, fighting, crying, laughing and memory making. The friends that I would stand by no matter what.
So ask me what I have left to give someone who I barely know. Somone who has not paid any dues, someone who I dont know will stand by me through the thick and thin. What do I have left to give them? All I have to give is the promise of a chance, which is hard to do for a person like myself who gave up hope for a complete life a very long time ago. And all I ask is for a chance in return.
When it comes to a chance for love, I have only let one person in. One person. And I was stupid enough to give him a second chance he screwed up soo big that I dont even think I can look at him without disappointment. Not anger, not bitterness but just sheer disappointment. Because he is no longer the person you knew. He is the other person who says terrible bitter things to you to hurt on purpose. Thats not the guy I knew. Who just did not say bitter or hurtful things about anyone for any reason because he that is not the kind of person he is. And what makes it even worse is despite that fact that he hurt me twice I will be there to pick up the pieces when he needs me. But would I call that love? Probably not. Certainly not romantic love. No not any kind of love. Its friendship, the same friendship that links you to your closest girl friends and guy friends.
I feel like I have gotten away from my point. My point is, things fail when we are young and they hurt and it sucks. But the point is we are young and we still have our own lives to build before we worry about building one with someone else.
I am done now.