And so the summer saga begins
I've been posting to online communities lately but nothing about myself. So here goes a run down.
The semester's over. The official grades haven't come in but I expect all A's and one B. Yeah, the B will be Math, but that's a vast improvement for me in that department. I'm going to be missing the GI Bill check, and I'm hoping to all things holy that I can get enough hours at work to pick up the lack.
The bf is doing well. He's finishing up his training and coming for a visit next weekend. We haven't seen each other since mid-March, so.... yeah, we have some catching up to do. And here's where I need some advice.
As you may recall, we started "talking" in January and decided to start dating in February. Now we've only seen each other three times this year, but communicate by phone almost every day. He was due back to stay this month. But the job market here sucks, and he was offered an awesome position in FL. The position would be assured until September and MIGHT become permanent after that. We would see each other once a month in the meanwhile. And who knows after that.
Herein lies my problem. I like him alot. I care for him. But I'm a long way from loving him. The relationship has been long distance from the start, and we've really not had a chance to grow it beyond where it's at. (And truthfully, I'm not sure it will grow much more regardless. I'm not being pessimistic just realistic considering my feelings; not just about the distance but "us" in general.) The point being: I don't want to let the relationship go without giving it a chance. But all things considered, that might be the best option. The distance didn't bother me, when there was a reasonable end in sight. It wouldn't bother me at all, if we really had something more than we do between us. But we don't. He'll talk about his feelings and future plans, but he's not wild about doing it. He's more of a happy-go-lucky, here-and-now kind of guy.
So, what do you guys think? What's the best way to approach this?
The semester's over. The official grades haven't come in but I expect all A's and one B. Yeah, the B will be Math, but that's a vast improvement for me in that department. I'm going to be missing the GI Bill check, and I'm hoping to all things holy that I can get enough hours at work to pick up the lack.
The bf is doing well. He's finishing up his training and coming for a visit next weekend. We haven't seen each other since mid-March, so.... yeah, we have some catching up to do. And here's where I need some advice.
As you may recall, we started "talking" in January and decided to start dating in February. Now we've only seen each other three times this year, but communicate by phone almost every day. He was due back to stay this month. But the job market here sucks, and he was offered an awesome position in FL. The position would be assured until September and MIGHT become permanent after that. We would see each other once a month in the meanwhile. And who knows after that.
Herein lies my problem. I like him alot. I care for him. But I'm a long way from loving him. The relationship has been long distance from the start, and we've really not had a chance to grow it beyond where it's at. (And truthfully, I'm not sure it will grow much more regardless. I'm not being pessimistic just realistic considering my feelings; not just about the distance but "us" in general.) The point being: I don't want to let the relationship go without giving it a chance. But all things considered, that might be the best option. The distance didn't bother me, when there was a reasonable end in sight. It wouldn't bother me at all, if we really had something more than we do between us. But we don't. He'll talk about his feelings and future plans, but he's not wild about doing it. He's more of a happy-go-lucky, here-and-now kind of guy.
So, what do you guys think? What's the best way to approach this?