I'm so out of here..and good riddance!
I can't even describe how fucking angry I am at Phil right now! Just when I thought he couldn't get to me this much anymore.
Sophia went to spend the weekend with him. She was supposed to spend this weekend and next weekend with him before we move because she probably won't be able to visit him again until Thanksgiving or Christmas. Phil and I were supposed to meet tonight at around 7:00 so she could come home. Well, I get a call around 1:30, and it's him telling me that they're leaving soon. He assumes I have no plans and can just drop everything and come get her early (yeah, that pissed me off). It turns out she's had a bad weekend and wasn't behaving well, and they had dinner plans for the night. He didn't want to take her out because she wasn't behaving well and therefore she needed to be brought home early. I mean..WTF?! Oh yeah, and by not "behaving well", he said she didn't want to get dressed. Um..who hasn't had a child who refuses to get dressed? Just be a parent and deal with it!! Either find a way to get her dressed and out to dinner, or cancel your plans and be a responsible parent and deal with your child...I mean, come on.
He always does this. When she has a good weekend, he's happy to keep her, but whenever she has a hard time, he's all too eager to dump her back with me. First of all, deal with your child! In his warped mind, kids are supposed to behave all the time or something. I just don't get it.
This little story gets better, though.
I get to our meeting spot and Sophia looks miserable. I walk over, kiss her, and I say "Don't worry, you'll see Daddy next weekend, and it's Father's Day." Phil immediately says "No she won't." I just look at him. He says right in front of Sophia "We have a christening to go to, and I won't take her if she's behaving like this."
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What the fuck is wrong with him?!? It's more important to him to not be embarrassed at a christening than it is to see his daughter one last time before she moves! And he goes and says this right in front of her.
How the hell does he think all of this makes her feel? She's not behaving well or doing what he wants, so he just sends her back home. He's afraid she'll misbehave at a dinner or a christening and cause him trouble or embarrass him, so he sends her home. I'm sure that makes her feel really loved and wanted by her dad. I'm sure that makes her feel like she's important to him...more important than his stupid social events.
So after he informs me that he's not taking her next weekend because she doesn't behave, he turns to me and tells me that "all she wants to do is watch tv" and "she doesn't know how to play outside." Um..what?? My daughter loves being outside more than any kid I know! Just because this particular weekend she was sad and didn't want to play outside, he goes and makes a statement like that. She didn't want to play outside because she was feeling sad. Who the hell wants to go running around outside when they're feeling depressed and down? I sure don't. Normally she's always begging me to go outside, and I feel guilty when I'm too tired to take her out.
THEN he says (again, right in front of Sophia) "She's not being raised well"
Okay, that's what did it for me. How dare he! I can't even start expressing how angry those words make me. He has NO right to judge me like that. I felt like I could have punched him right then. And he doesn't seem to understand that Sophia doesn't act the same at my house as she does at his. He has a whole mess of problems with her that I never do. And yet he finds a way to blame me for all of them. And the best part is that there's no way in hell he could raise her by himself and keep a full-time job. He can hardly handle keeping her for a weekend.
If I find someone to be in a long-term relationship with, I'm going to make sure he's someone who will be a good male figure in Sophia's life, who will accept her unconditionally, because she's certainly not getting that from her father. It angers me to think about how much it is probably hurting her.
Sophia went to spend the weekend with him. She was supposed to spend this weekend and next weekend with him before we move because she probably won't be able to visit him again until Thanksgiving or Christmas. Phil and I were supposed to meet tonight at around 7:00 so she could come home. Well, I get a call around 1:30, and it's him telling me that they're leaving soon. He assumes I have no plans and can just drop everything and come get her early (yeah, that pissed me off). It turns out she's had a bad weekend and wasn't behaving well, and they had dinner plans for the night. He didn't want to take her out because she wasn't behaving well and therefore she needed to be brought home early. I mean..WTF?! Oh yeah, and by not "behaving well", he said she didn't want to get dressed. Um..who hasn't had a child who refuses to get dressed? Just be a parent and deal with it!! Either find a way to get her dressed and out to dinner, or cancel your plans and be a responsible parent and deal with your child...I mean, come on.
He always does this. When she has a good weekend, he's happy to keep her, but whenever she has a hard time, he's all too eager to dump her back with me. First of all, deal with your child! In his warped mind, kids are supposed to behave all the time or something. I just don't get it.
This little story gets better, though.
I get to our meeting spot and Sophia looks miserable. I walk over, kiss her, and I say "Don't worry, you'll see Daddy next weekend, and it's Father's Day." Phil immediately says "No she won't." I just look at him. He says right in front of Sophia "We have a christening to go to, and I won't take her if she's behaving like this."
...
What the fuck is wrong with him?!? It's more important to him to not be embarrassed at a christening than it is to see his daughter one last time before she moves! And he goes and says this right in front of her.
How the hell does he think all of this makes her feel? She's not behaving well or doing what he wants, so he just sends her back home. He's afraid she'll misbehave at a dinner or a christening and cause him trouble or embarrass him, so he sends her home. I'm sure that makes her feel really loved and wanted by her dad. I'm sure that makes her feel like she's important to him...more important than his stupid social events.
So after he informs me that he's not taking her next weekend because she doesn't behave, he turns to me and tells me that "all she wants to do is watch tv" and "she doesn't know how to play outside." Um..what?? My daughter loves being outside more than any kid I know! Just because this particular weekend she was sad and didn't want to play outside, he goes and makes a statement like that. She didn't want to play outside because she was feeling sad. Who the hell wants to go running around outside when they're feeling depressed and down? I sure don't. Normally she's always begging me to go outside, and I feel guilty when I'm too tired to take her out.
THEN he says (again, right in front of Sophia) "She's not being raised well"
Okay, that's what did it for me. How dare he! I can't even start expressing how angry those words make me. He has NO right to judge me like that. I felt like I could have punched him right then. And he doesn't seem to understand that Sophia doesn't act the same at my house as she does at his. He has a whole mess of problems with her that I never do. And yet he finds a way to blame me for all of them. And the best part is that there's no way in hell he could raise her by himself and keep a full-time job. He can hardly handle keeping her for a weekend.
If I find someone to be in a long-term relationship with, I'm going to make sure he's someone who will be a good male figure in Sophia's life, who will accept her unconditionally, because she's certainly not getting that from her father. It angers me to think about how much it is probably hurting her.