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So an old freind contacted me recently. We had only spent a few short weekends together, but corresponded for what seems like forever through e-mails and such. He had gotten a very serious girlfriend and was contemplating marriage. I was nothing but excited for him. He had been through alot, and happiness was more than what he deserved. Well recently he wrote me, after not speaking for almost a year, and told me he and his girlfriend had broken up. She left him because she isn't the "commitment type". She's the single type. But as he confided in me it seemed as though he was somewhat desperate. He had been married twice before this last relationship. It came across as if he HAD to be with someone, and very needy.
Now, I realize that since we had became very close he felt as though he could confide in me, which he can. But because of our friendship I get the impression that he feels as if we are so close that maybe an intimate relationship could emerge from all of this. Now, I like to consider myself a good friend. And thats all I really want to be to him. I am going to tell him this because he had mentioned to me before this last relationship, that he did like me and actually wanted to make a trip up here to see me for a few weeks. He also deserves to know. I just don't want to tell him right now, seeing as though he is hurting badly and needs some sort of comfort. However, I don't want him to think that just because we are talking again, and starting to get close again, that I am leading him on in any type of manner. I'm just a genuinly nice person.
I'm not looking for anything romantic in my life right now, and I don't want that sort of relationship right now. And it's not that I'm the single type. I enjoyed being married very much, and hopefully will have a relationship like that again in the future. I just think that friendship is the cornerstone to a long and successful relationship. Although there is friendship with me and him, it's not the kind of friendship that can grow into something.
I'm just trying to write this all out and make sense of it all, before I say something that will hurt someone.
I don't know guess thats it. I think I know what the right thing to do is. So I'm going to do that. Nighty night.
Now, I realize that since we had became very close he felt as though he could confide in me, which he can. But because of our friendship I get the impression that he feels as if we are so close that maybe an intimate relationship could emerge from all of this. Now, I like to consider myself a good friend. And thats all I really want to be to him. I am going to tell him this because he had mentioned to me before this last relationship, that he did like me and actually wanted to make a trip up here to see me for a few weeks. He also deserves to know. I just don't want to tell him right now, seeing as though he is hurting badly and needs some sort of comfort. However, I don't want him to think that just because we are talking again, and starting to get close again, that I am leading him on in any type of manner. I'm just a genuinly nice person.
I'm not looking for anything romantic in my life right now, and I don't want that sort of relationship right now. And it's not that I'm the single type. I enjoyed being married very much, and hopefully will have a relationship like that again in the future. I just think that friendship is the cornerstone to a long and successful relationship. Although there is friendship with me and him, it's not the kind of friendship that can grow into something.
I'm just trying to write this all out and make sense of it all, before I say something that will hurt someone.
I don't know guess thats it. I think I know what the right thing to do is. So I'm going to do that. Nighty night.