My Type
I don't have a physical type. I used to say the only preference I had was that he was taller than me. I dated a short guy before. I believe we were the same height. It didn't really bother me because I was like 23, and I wore flats almost all the time. I wasn't really into heels at that point. Quite frankly, I was just getting into skirts and dresses. I think if I was a high heel girly, I obviously would've been taller than him and probably would've hated it. He was also two years younger than me. That was a glaring difference that showed when he couldn't handle conflict, or his liquor.
My type beyond the one physical requirement of height I had is that he is smart, motivated, thoughtful, fun, and kind with a good sense of humor or quick wit. When I think about Gil, I think about how kind and fun he was. Tommy was smart and motivated. Pope was fun with a good sense of humor. Dave was smart, thoughtful, and kind. James was thoughtful, kind, and fun with a good sense of humor; he later became motivated. Paul was fun, smart, and witty. Mark was fun with a good sense of humor. Eric was thoughtful and fun with a good sense of humor. The guy that has driven me crazy since March is smart, motivated, and kind. In my dreams, he is all the things except taller than me. That's the only part of reality that doesn't get blurred in my dreams. If he was taller than me, I wouldn't like him more. But if he was an actual tall man, 6 feet or whatever, I would be entirely eternally smitten...maybe. I think, because he is very handsome, if he were tall, he would probably be arrogant. He's already a little bit arrogant because he's the type of person that makes their career their entire existence. And he knows he looks good and drives a nice car and has disposable income. But he's not actually a confident man because he literally told me he has a short man complex more than three times in the last two months. I find that hard to believe since he was always so boldly posted up with the tall bitch that stole my lanyard...even today. And she's actually tall af. I am average, 5'4. He is 5'3 and a half... She's about 5'8 in flats. But I'm the one he's intimidated by. What a load of bullshit.
Anyway, I am very excited to meet new people, especially men, because I know they will have at least two of the qualities I look for - smart and motivated. You have to be, if you're in law school, right?