I recently met my sister for the first time...
Oldest child in a family of 6 is what I grew up knowing myself as (family-wise), until recently that changed. Usually this would follow along the lines of "my mom just had another baby," which would be incredible seeing as how she is nearing her 50's. But the real story is a few months ago I was finally told, at age 20, that my father had a kid in high school. Coming from a strict stereotypical conservative, Catholic family I can't even begin to explain how much of a shock this was to me. On top of that, apparently I wasn't the oldest anymore, and the big sister I always wanted existed but was simply a name to me.
Marci and I finally contacted each other recently. I had already been filled in on her life story, and she was not handed an easy life by any means. However, despite all the obstacles God had thrown in her way, she seemed like an amazing person and we decided we needed to meet. A few days ago this actually happened, we greeted each other with a huge hug that made me force back tears. We went to a bar and immediately clicked, and talked about things that I would never talk to a stranger about or even some of my close friends. And the next day we decided to hang out again, and had a long, needed talk about our family and our lives. In her early 30's still, she is widowed and the conversation about this allowed her to open her beautiful heart up to me. She has and lives the "I want to experience everything out of life" attitude, so much so that this December she is going into space. She lives the care-free, yet purposeful life that I aspire to live. Only knowing each other for 2 days, my big sister immediately became someone I admire and simply saying she became my big sister. The dynamic was weird, looking back, because we immediately fell into big sister, little sister rolls. Where she had to pay for everything and gave me advice on things in my life. It was a beautiful experience, and one that will not end because she's family to me now.
With my new-found relationship with our father, and my new sister I feel so blessed right now, despite all the hardships I'm facing right now. I'd like to say my outlook on life is changing for the better. Maybe I just wanted to write this down because the feelings I'm experiencing right now are so difficult to explain, or maybe I just wanted to share this beautiful story with someone out there, whichever one it is... thanks for reading.
Marci and I finally contacted each other recently. I had already been filled in on her life story, and she was not handed an easy life by any means. However, despite all the obstacles God had thrown in her way, she seemed like an amazing person and we decided we needed to meet. A few days ago this actually happened, we greeted each other with a huge hug that made me force back tears. We went to a bar and immediately clicked, and talked about things that I would never talk to a stranger about or even some of my close friends. And the next day we decided to hang out again, and had a long, needed talk about our family and our lives. In her early 30's still, she is widowed and the conversation about this allowed her to open her beautiful heart up to me. She has and lives the "I want to experience everything out of life" attitude, so much so that this December she is going into space. She lives the care-free, yet purposeful life that I aspire to live. Only knowing each other for 2 days, my big sister immediately became someone I admire and simply saying she became my big sister. The dynamic was weird, looking back, because we immediately fell into big sister, little sister rolls. Where she had to pay for everything and gave me advice on things in my life. It was a beautiful experience, and one that will not end because she's family to me now.
With my new-found relationship with our father, and my new sister I feel so blessed right now, despite all the hardships I'm facing right now. I'd like to say my outlook on life is changing for the better. Maybe I just wanted to write this down because the feelings I'm experiencing right now are so difficult to explain, or maybe I just wanted to share this beautiful story with someone out there, whichever one it is... thanks for reading.