Stop right now thank you very much
I have been very neutral about this. Mostly because I have relationships with people involved on all sides. And the last thing I want to do is hurt any of them.
But this has gotten to the point where it is ridiculous what things people assume and how willing they are to believe they are true. And things that aren't true are just eventually bound to cause trouble and I want to prevent that. This post is public, so anyone on my f'list not involved on this, please scroll and forgive me for the interruption to your regularly scheduled flisting.
On the same tone, if you haven't ever assumed things that aren't true about what I'm talking about, also scroll. This won't apply to you.
THE FACTS:
oceanaldi is NOT what you think it is. It is not Grand Bitching Central or Great Plotting Headquarters. It isn't. It has almost one HUNDRED THOUSAND comments. Do you really think there is a group of people capable of that much bitching in 2 months?
oceanaldi is a place where a bunch of people who used to chat every night got cockblocked because the aim application of one of them, started being a bitch and slowing her computer down. So every night we would have 3 to 5 im windows open and one day, we decided to take it to a community instead. It is only private because when you make a chatroom with 5 of your friends you don't invite ALL the rest of them.
oceanaldi is a place where we CHAT. Every day (and yes, sometimes we do it all day). About the stupidest things. Tv shows, and what we are having for dinner, and what we saw on the way to class. What our dog did this morning, what shampoo we use, what we have to do at work. What icons we just added, what picspam we should be working on, what song we just put on our profile. What celebrity we're obsessed with, what concert we want to go to. Chat. Like any of you does any random night, or every night with your close friends. THAT'S. IT.
oceanaldi is a place that is special to these people. Not because it is their venting community, but because it's where their friends are every day. Assumptions about this place hurt people. Not just the people who are inside, but to people who will believe these assumptions and take them for granted. Think that they were excluded because they aren't loved or liked. That isn't the way this is.
Some people have arrived after the creation and some people have left. But this is only because relationships and people change. And some friendships don't last forever and that shouldn't be dramatized either. It happens.
Finally,
Next time you want to make an assumption about someone or some other people, take a moment first and try to think how you felt or reacted the last time someone made an assumption about you or your friends that wasn't true and don't fall into a double standard.
Alternatively,
I wish we could all get along like we used to in middle school... I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy
That's all.
But this has gotten to the point where it is ridiculous what things people assume and how willing they are to believe they are true. And things that aren't true are just eventually bound to cause trouble and I want to prevent that. This post is public, so anyone on my f'list not involved on this, please scroll and forgive me for the interruption to your regularly scheduled flisting.
On the same tone, if you haven't ever assumed things that aren't true about what I'm talking about, also scroll. This won't apply to you.
THE FACTS:
oceanaldi is NOT what you think it is. It is not Grand Bitching Central or Great Plotting Headquarters. It isn't. It has almost one HUNDRED THOUSAND comments. Do you really think there is a group of people capable of that much bitching in 2 months?
oceanaldi is a place where a bunch of people who used to chat every night got cockblocked because the aim application of one of them, started being a bitch and slowing her computer down. So every night we would have 3 to 5 im windows open and one day, we decided to take it to a community instead. It is only private because when you make a chatroom with 5 of your friends you don't invite ALL the rest of them.
oceanaldi is a place where we CHAT. Every day (and yes, sometimes we do it all day). About the stupidest things. Tv shows, and what we are having for dinner, and what we saw on the way to class. What our dog did this morning, what shampoo we use, what we have to do at work. What icons we just added, what picspam we should be working on, what song we just put on our profile. What celebrity we're obsessed with, what concert we want to go to. Chat. Like any of you does any random night, or every night with your close friends. THAT'S. IT.
oceanaldi is a place that is special to these people. Not because it is their venting community, but because it's where their friends are every day. Assumptions about this place hurt people. Not just the people who are inside, but to people who will believe these assumptions and take them for granted. Think that they were excluded because they aren't loved or liked. That isn't the way this is.
Some people have arrived after the creation and some people have left. But this is only because relationships and people change. And some friendships don't last forever and that shouldn't be dramatized either. It happens.
Finally,
Next time you want to make an assumption about someone or some other people, take a moment first and try to think how you felt or reacted the last time someone made an assumption about you or your friends that wasn't true and don't fall into a double standard.
Alternatively,
I wish we could all get along like we used to in middle school... I wish I could bake a cake filled with rainbows and smiles and everyone would eat and be happy
That's all.