Frankly, kid, you're overestimating the importance of and overpoliticising your personality quirks
Is there a term for the thing where activisty people start ranting for some cause, and very very soon, it ends up being so very individual and personal about that blogger in particular (when they're projecting their own personalities, likes, orientations and whatever onto a greater cause and insisting that that represents all people that cause touches), and when they start alienating people by using super-obscure terms that were invented a week ago about some incredibly personal things that will never touch more than three people in a century?
Like, JFC. There has to be a term for that because I keep coming across that all the time. I've just seen a rant from some bisexual who said it's WRONG if a non-bi person "thinks bisexuality is about attraction to men and women." Uh... like... what? No, this wasn't a question of all the gender variations in between that either, because that person was ranting about that stuff later (and thank *gods* was telling people to shut the fuck up if they thought identifying as bi was oppressive), but I've never found that phrase particularly harmful. But this was a blogger who was telling people to stop writing bisexuals if they thought it meant this or that, and she was using a shitton of these obscure terms and concepts that nobody, unless they were hip-deep in activism, would know shit about. She also had the gall to say that if you're--and get a load of this--not keeping up to date with activist blogs about bisexuality, and other queer topics, you should never write queer characters at all.
Well.
That's... so fucking relevant to me writing about bisexuals in medieval Persia. Yep. If an angry American defines their sexuality through the symbolism of some... IDK, a fucking American food brand or something and I don't know that food brand, I'm evil and should not be writing about medieval Persians. I'm just saying "food brand" in order to come up with a random example, but... I'm sure it's out there. Wait, how about granola dykes? Europeans don't know what the fuck granola is about, but I'm sure these same types would be up in arms if we admitted that. Because granola's important to US lesbian culture.
...yeesh. But honestly, is there a term for that? Like, beyond "tunnel vision" and "blinkered" and again and again and again, "classically autistic" in that the person observes the world and engages through it as if they were the main star of it and that everyone else was just a co-star rather than being the main character of their own lives as well? Who treats other people as fucking extras, as scenery at worst? Now paint that scenery purple! Yes, all those people over there! Because purple is important to the big main star and don't you KNOOOW the political connotations of it?!
JFC, again I'm reminded of one of the main reasons I write my own porn and why it's mostly period: because I don't have to *deal* with this modern, freshly made up crap and fighting and "more-oppressed-than-thou" and "my-identity's-more-important-than-yours" bullshit. It's the one place in which I can have people fall in love, fall in lust and fuck and live and breathe on their own terms, not harnessed by any selfish angry kid on the other side of the world who I don't give a fuck about any more than they'd have to give a fuck about my obscure fetishes, to be perfectly frank.
Like, JFC. There has to be a term for that because I keep coming across that all the time. I've just seen a rant from some bisexual who said it's WRONG if a non-bi person "thinks bisexuality is about attraction to men and women." Uh... like... what? No, this wasn't a question of all the gender variations in between that either, because that person was ranting about that stuff later (and thank *gods* was telling people to shut the fuck up if they thought identifying as bi was oppressive), but I've never found that phrase particularly harmful. But this was a blogger who was telling people to stop writing bisexuals if they thought it meant this or that, and she was using a shitton of these obscure terms and concepts that nobody, unless they were hip-deep in activism, would know shit about. She also had the gall to say that if you're--and get a load of this--not keeping up to date with activist blogs about bisexuality, and other queer topics, you should never write queer characters at all.
Well.
That's... so fucking relevant to me writing about bisexuals in medieval Persia. Yep. If an angry American defines their sexuality through the symbolism of some... IDK, a fucking American food brand or something and I don't know that food brand, I'm evil and should not be writing about medieval Persians. I'm just saying "food brand" in order to come up with a random example, but... I'm sure it's out there. Wait, how about granola dykes? Europeans don't know what the fuck granola is about, but I'm sure these same types would be up in arms if we admitted that. Because granola's important to US lesbian culture.
...yeesh. But honestly, is there a term for that? Like, beyond "tunnel vision" and "blinkered" and again and again and again, "classically autistic" in that the person observes the world and engages through it as if they were the main star of it and that everyone else was just a co-star rather than being the main character of their own lives as well? Who treats other people as fucking extras, as scenery at worst? Now paint that scenery purple! Yes, all those people over there! Because purple is important to the big main star and don't you KNOOOW the political connotations of it?!
JFC, again I'm reminded of one of the main reasons I write my own porn and why it's mostly period: because I don't have to *deal* with this modern, freshly made up crap and fighting and "more-oppressed-than-thou" and "my-identity's-more-important-than-yours" bullshit. It's the one place in which I can have people fall in love, fall in lust and fuck and live and breathe on their own terms, not harnessed by any selfish angry kid on the other side of the world who I don't give a fuck about any more than they'd have to give a fuck about my obscure fetishes, to be perfectly frank.