(no subject)

May 11, 2005 22:49

I must say that love is a truly blind being…if you would call it a
being at all. What exactly is love? Is it a state of true happiness or
is it something you find when you meet somebody. I thought I found
love but I was terribly wrong.
Let me start over. I've found over the years that you can not search
for love. Love finds you, and it works in mysterious ways. Now I
understand that I am only 17 and that I have not had enough experience
dating but I think I have learned enough about the opposite sex. Also
I understand that these thoughts, ideas and ramblings aren't in any
specific order so bear with me. People have told me over the years
that you can't search for love, and yes I am guilty for I have
searched for love in all the wrong places. But I'll tell you one
thing, one day you will have your guard down and love will smack you
right in the face.
Now like I said love works in mysterious ways and there is no
controlling it. Love decides when it is done not you. Love is strong,
beautiful, and can only happen if the terms are right but there are
things you can do to keep it strong between you and your significant
other:

1. If you love her, tell her. There is no point in circling around it.
2. Don't cheat on her, it may seem foolproof, but girls talk about
anything and everything and they will find out some way or another and
you will be screwed.
3. Don't refuse to kiss her in front of your friends, if they laugh at
you it's because they are jealous.
4. Never miss an opportunity to tell her she is beautiful.
5. Don't be afraid to touch her if you want to. If she's going out
with you in the first place, it's because she likes being in your
arms.
6. If you don't sleep with her, DON'T tell your friends that you did.
/ If you DO sleep with her, DON'T tell your friends that you did.
7. Go to a chick flick once in a while. She doesn't care whether you
enjoy it or not, it just matters that you went.
8. Don't stress where you go for every date. They really only want to
be with you.
9. If they complain that something hurts, rub it for them without being asked.
10. Give them back messages as often as possible, even if they don't
ask for one do it anyway

Also here are some things that you (guys) should think about, a lot of
these points are true about girls:

1. Whatever you do, don't just show up at her house...they run around
in their underwear just like we do.
2. Beware of every single male relative and all guy friends. Any of
them would kick your ass at the drop of a hat, and a lot of them
wouldn't even wait for the damn hat.
3. If she slaps you hard, you deserved it.
4. You can be dirty minded in private, really...most of them are not
offended by it...
5. Not all of them eat like birds, a lot of them can eat like whales.
6. Every girl should eventually get three things from her boyfriend- a
stuffed animal, one of his sweatshirts, and a really pretty ring. Even
if it's not a serious relationship.
7. Make sure she gets home safely as often as you can. If you're
dropping her off, walk her to the door. If you aren't dropping her
off, call to be sure she's home safely.
8. If a guy is bothering her, it is your right to beat the shit out of him.
9. If you're talking to a female friend of yours, pull your girlfriend closer.
10. Never, EVER slap her, even if it's just in a joking way. Even if
she swats you first, and says, "Oh, you're so dumb" or something,
never make any gestures back.
11. You're dead meat if you can't get along with their pets, parents,
and best friends. Be prince charming to their friends, Mr. Polite to
their parents, and make sure to be nice to their animals.
12. Don't be freaked out by PMS. It's not gross, and it really does
make them feel like shit, so be understanding.
13. If you don't like the way they drive, you do it.
14. If you're officially dating, and you're introducing her to your
friends, you'd better damn well introduce her as your girlfriend.
15. Memorize their god damn birthdays. You forget her birthday and
you're basically screwed for life.
16. Don't give her something stupid for her birthday or Christmas or
Valentine's day. It doesn't have to be expensive, but it has to be
meaningful. Jewelry is always nice.
17. After you've been dating for a while, realize that they really
have started to trust you. When you have a girlfriend who truly trusts
you, you have a lot more responsibility, privilege and control than
you would think. Be careful with it, most guys would kill for that
kind of power, and it can be lost in a nanosecond.

If you can follow these things you should be able to have a long and
healthy relationship. Don't ever think that your lucky if you find
love. You don't find love, love finds you and don't ever take it for
granite because if you do it will be gone before you even notice it.
Previous post Next post
Up