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http://www.zaobao.com/yl/yl111211_008.shtml
I actually disagree with this columnist.
"最后告诉自己：“不要通过孩子的成绩，来肯定自我的成就。适度的放手，孩子在需要妈妈的时候，才会紧握你的手。"
I remember scoring A* (91 marks and above) in primary school, and my mum will scold me for not scoring 100 marks. And when i finally scored 100 marks, I was scolded for being arrogant. But never did my mum caned or scolded me for scoring 60marks for primary school science. That says alot. My parents never judged me based on my academic achievements. Their underlying intentions were simply for me to realise my own potential. That saying, I am 100% confident that my parents never used my academic achievements to measure their own parenting successes. When I did well, they were proud of me, not proud of themselves. When I fail to produce results, they were disappointed in themselves, but not me.
So are we seriously going to agree with this columnist who tells parents off doing this : "通过孩子的成绩，来肯定自我的成就" ? No i don't think so. I am sure that most of the parents are like my mum and my dad.
The truth is, we are already having a relatively easy life in terms of education. (ok whatever you guys can flaw me for making a sweeping statement, but i don't intend to write this as a GP essay). So why are kids nowadays complaining about stress in primary school? Why are they hiring tuition teachers like it is a free good even in primary one. Is that necessary? No. It is simply a reflection of their tendency to run away from obstacles, to get spoonfed.
And what are parents doing? Instead of motivating them to find their own potentials, they find all sorts of lameshit excuses like : my kid is stressed, my kid is doing well enough promote etc. So when parents try to motivate their kids, they are coined as putting unnecessary pressure on them. Is this even reasonable?
Are parents asking too much when they want their child to perform academically? Or are we gradually expecting too little from future generations? Seriously, it takes two hands to clap. On one hand, parents these days are generally failing in terms of character development in their children. On the other hand, kids are just tactless and disrespectful especially when they make comments like: I HATE MY MUM (forget about using their age such that they are pardoned).
It makes my heart sinks when I see such reports because it seems like societal progress is no longer relevant in our life. More like degeneration. Not to mention the shitty conclusions columnists give at times. Disappointing.
p.s: Even news reports by straitstimes are getting shittier. Seriously, who gives a damn about some guy getting married again after his wife died in a terrorist attack. Do better.
The truth is, I am worried. Will my kid be like this in 10-20 years? I don't dare to think any further.