rant on passive AND the not so passive boys
complaints after talking with my two closest sisters.
it sucks how the boys
you are least likely to suspect,
will initiate,
and the ones you expect to,
don't.
it sucks how you are attracted to a boy
who is really sweet and nice,
and who is a really godly man,
and when they start initiating,
and you get to know them better,
you realize how different they are
from you.
it sucks because they are really fun, but
then you realize how wrong both of you are for each other.
it sucks especially when you realize that
you really do like them,
but just as a friend.
it sucks how all the wrong people make me even more annoyed because it means that i have more things to think about.
it sucks how more boys call me than girls.
it makes me think.
WHERE THE HECK ARE ALL MY SISTERS?!
thats what we concluded.
i hope i can teach my kids, who if they are boys, to be men--not passive, but balanced. not overbearing, but able to take care of their future families and spouses. i guess what bothers me most is that the sisters have been forced to take the role of the initiator, and for some reason it's been an excuse that there is equal opportunity and equality in a relationship, so its ok to do so...but biblically, and just traditionally, i think its wrong.
i'm not ok with that. people think i'm hard to please or just have set really high standards, but there are just certain things boys SHOULD do, that they don't because they're babies. maybe that's why some guys complain that they're not in relationships. not that God has said, you're ready for one and there aren't any girls that are right now or anything, but maybe the reason why there are no "right girls" is because they're all taken by the less good-looking, less talented guys...why? because they're bold enough to initiate, they're bold enough to take a chance and confident enough to make mistakes and be alright with it.
i feel annoyed that i feel annoyed by this. there is no excuse for not taking up that role, especially because its not like you'll grow into the role. if you're not an initiator to begin with, you will never be. its not something that you change over time, or right away. its something taught by older brothers and fathers. and only God can really change.
i'm really glad that i've still got close single sisters to talk about standards and godly relationships. i just get annoyed, because i realized last night that some people are more intentional than i first thought. and that makes me pretty...ignorant and continually more suspicious about the whole, singling out special people they see as "potential". i hate being "potential". i'm not candy at a candy shoppe that can be "potential" to taste good. some people can take things at surface value, but i'm pretty sure i'm not looking too much into it after talking to them about it. it just sucks how it was brought to my intention.
by the way, this has nothing to do with me or any "one" guy. i'm just annoyed at the whole male populace in general at the moment. i think whats more annoying is that i can honestly say...there is no one i find attractive right now. except probably for godly guys i probably don't know well enough. haha. that sounds so bad...but its true.
it sucks how the boys
you are least likely to suspect,
will initiate,
and the ones you expect to,
don't.
it sucks how you are attracted to a boy
who is really sweet and nice,
and who is a really godly man,
and when they start initiating,
and you get to know them better,
you realize how different they are
from you.
it sucks because they are really fun, but
then you realize how wrong both of you are for each other.
it sucks especially when you realize that
you really do like them,
but just as a friend.
it sucks how all the wrong people make me even more annoyed because it means that i have more things to think about.
it sucks how more boys call me than girls.
it makes me think.
WHERE THE HECK ARE ALL MY SISTERS?!
thats what we concluded.
i hope i can teach my kids, who if they are boys, to be men--not passive, but balanced. not overbearing, but able to take care of their future families and spouses. i guess what bothers me most is that the sisters have been forced to take the role of the initiator, and for some reason it's been an excuse that there is equal opportunity and equality in a relationship, so its ok to do so...but biblically, and just traditionally, i think its wrong.
i'm not ok with that. people think i'm hard to please or just have set really high standards, but there are just certain things boys SHOULD do, that they don't because they're babies. maybe that's why some guys complain that they're not in relationships. not that God has said, you're ready for one and there aren't any girls that are right now or anything, but maybe the reason why there are no "right girls" is because they're all taken by the less good-looking, less talented guys...why? because they're bold enough to initiate, they're bold enough to take a chance and confident enough to make mistakes and be alright with it.
i feel annoyed that i feel annoyed by this. there is no excuse for not taking up that role, especially because its not like you'll grow into the role. if you're not an initiator to begin with, you will never be. its not something that you change over time, or right away. its something taught by older brothers and fathers. and only God can really change.
i'm really glad that i've still got close single sisters to talk about standards and godly relationships. i just get annoyed, because i realized last night that some people are more intentional than i first thought. and that makes me pretty...ignorant and continually more suspicious about the whole, singling out special people they see as "potential". i hate being "potential". i'm not candy at a candy shoppe that can be "potential" to taste good. some people can take things at surface value, but i'm pretty sure i'm not looking too much into it after talking to them about it. it just sucks how it was brought to my intention.
by the way, this has nothing to do with me or any "one" guy. i'm just annoyed at the whole male populace in general at the moment. i think whats more annoying is that i can honestly say...there is no one i find attractive right now. except probably for godly guys i probably don't know well enough. haha. that sounds so bad...but its true.