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No matter how piddly and impersonal the argument, when the tension is high, kids feel it and react to it.
B and I just argued about the dumbest thing -- tennis! I don't understand how tennis is scored from the very basic principles on up. B does. He started explaining things to me and I realized that I didn't even know the most basic premise -- what a game/match/set is and how it breaks down. So I interrupted his explanation and asked him to just answer my elementary question first.
The way MY mind works is I have to understand the foundational bricks, or the rest of the building will crumble on me. Even if the words are thrown at me in the right order in the middle of the explanation, if I cannot find a way to wrap my brain around it, digest it and completely understand and own that concept, the rest is gibberish to me. Then I'll need another explanation and another and another, much to the exasperation to my "educators."
Somehow, though, I'm a bad guy if I'm not willing to listen to an explanation I'm not getting long enough to see if I can dig my answers out of it.
B and I just argued about the dumbest thing -- tennis! I don't understand how tennis is scored from the very basic principles on up. B does. He started explaining things to me and I realized that I didn't even know the most basic premise -- what a game/match/set is and how it breaks down. So I interrupted his explanation and asked him to just answer my elementary question first.
The way MY mind works is I have to understand the foundational bricks, or the rest of the building will crumble on me. Even if the words are thrown at me in the right order in the middle of the explanation, if I cannot find a way to wrap my brain around it, digest it and completely understand and own that concept, the rest is gibberish to me. Then I'll need another explanation and another and another, much to the exasperation to my "educators."
Somehow, though, I'm a bad guy if I'm not willing to listen to an explanation I'm not getting long enough to see if I can dig my answers out of it.