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Gender and Sexual Identity

Mar 28, 2009 08:55

I would like to open for discussion the following.

Gender and Sexual Identityhttp://takingsteps.blogspot.com/2009/03/fair.htmlRead more... )

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talksick42 March 28 2009, 18:43:08 UTC

I agree with the last paragraph. Next to the survival instinct, sexuality is our strongest urge. Anyone who voluntarily squelches that urge very late in life is generally recommended to seek psychiatric help. It's fine to hold back because you don't feel comfortable about sex, but if it becomes so much of a problem that you can't trust yourself with anyone, a little self-exploration is probably a good idea.

The first one had some good points, then flatlined when the author said "They're PRIVILEGEDED so they WOULDN'T UNDERSTAND :CCCC"

bluepickle March 28 2009, 19:09:01 UTC

That seems to be the misconception about asexuality. Most people feel sexual attraction, yes. However, a few of us do not. It has nothing to do with trauma or genetics or physical inabilities/inhibitions. Many asexuals are able and do engage in sexual congress/activities because it is something desired and needed strongly by their partner. Some asexuals even enjoy and find pleasure from the act/s themselves. The fact is, though, we do not desire it. It is not that we do not have the opportunity, just that it is not anything we prefer to engage in. The equipment works, but there is no mental desire for sex. No sexual attraction. Some people are sexually attracted to males. Some females. Some neither and nothing in-between ( ... )

shane_mayhem March 28 2009, 19:21:09 UTC

I have to disagree. We still don't know as much about how the brain works as we think we do, and while it could be true that some asexuals are only asexual because of trauma associated with sex, or some other kind of psychological/spiritual barrier, you can't really generalize that for everyone. Especially because, as little solid research as has been done about LGBTQ issues, even less, if any, has been done about people who are asexual. Probably because of the very attitude you're describing, there: that it's unnatural and must stem from some kind of psychological problem ( ... )

bluepickle March 28 2009, 19:32:50 UTC

Thank you for this reply. Maybe it's just a circle-jerk mentality, but it is nice to have the validation of others with similar POV.

It made me very sad when I read "My peace is dependent upon not having the female (ie, not male, never male) experience trampled on an appropriated." Their peace depends on focusing only on one group of people as worthy? That doesn't seem like any textbook definition of peace. That and this person's total disregard for the first-linked-OP's gender identity (making sure to call them "he" and "male") really got me in the dumps (prompting this topic). There is a lot of disrespect and ignorance in those two links.

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