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Someone said something to me the other day that has been slowly sinking into meaning. She said "I just treat it like everything is an accident and then I can't really get angry about it."
This was in reference to a person who is difficult and highly irritating at times. I kind of like that approach in a way, because there are a huge host of reasons why is person is the way they are and many of the challenging situations they create are an accident. They don't set out with an intention to be irritating and difficult, things just sort of turn out that way.
Then again, a lot of us have done a great amount of personal work to be the sort of people who don't create this sort of energy around us anymore. I used to be the sort of person who people would have to treat like the above person, but I just worked my ass off and decided to be a person who is responsible for their own emotional state and looks out for others as well. Not that I always succeed mind you! But I don't think people could say about me "oh just treat her like everything she does is an accident so you don't have to get mad" anymore.
Anyhow, so there's a part of me that's like "Hey! We did all this work! You have to do it too!!!" But that's not true. There isn't, unfortunately maybe, a rule that says everyone has to be honest and responsible and compassionate and empathetic and listen to others and help others and all that stuff. We aren't forced to get therapy and do self work by the government, and hey, the free will thing? I kind of like that. So I wouldn't trade it.
I do wish that people would be self-observant rather than self-absorbed. I'd like it if people would actually listen to what others are saying instead of just hearing what they want to hear, or what they need to hear in order to maintain their skewed perception of life as it doesn't do anyone any favors. It'd be pretty great if people would be as interested in others as they are in themselves. As defensive and aware of others and their emotions as they are of themselves and their own.
This was in reference to a person who is difficult and highly irritating at times. I kind of like that approach in a way, because there are a huge host of reasons why is person is the way they are and many of the challenging situations they create are an accident. They don't set out with an intention to be irritating and difficult, things just sort of turn out that way.
Then again, a lot of us have done a great amount of personal work to be the sort of people who don't create this sort of energy around us anymore. I used to be the sort of person who people would have to treat like the above person, but I just worked my ass off and decided to be a person who is responsible for their own emotional state and looks out for others as well. Not that I always succeed mind you! But I don't think people could say about me "oh just treat her like everything she does is an accident so you don't have to get mad" anymore.
Anyhow, so there's a part of me that's like "Hey! We did all this work! You have to do it too!!!" But that's not true. There isn't, unfortunately maybe, a rule that says everyone has to be honest and responsible and compassionate and empathetic and listen to others and help others and all that stuff. We aren't forced to get therapy and do self work by the government, and hey, the free will thing? I kind of like that. So I wouldn't trade it.
I do wish that people would be self-observant rather than self-absorbed. I'd like it if people would actually listen to what others are saying instead of just hearing what they want to hear, or what they need to hear in order to maintain their skewed perception of life as it doesn't do anyone any favors. It'd be pretty great if people would be as interested in others as they are in themselves. As defensive and aware of others and their emotions as they are of themselves and their own.