what my brother said about mary
hehe! i actually have a friend who's doing her term paper on blogging among youths. apparently i am one of her respondents, so she's having a look-see right now, i think. i'm kinda nervous because i'm not really whom you call an active blogger. i don't know if i really qualify to be her respondent.
anywho, i was on my way back to my hometown for my dad's birthday last night. i was in the car with my brother. i had nothing else to talk about so i told him about mary, about how she's very inconsiderate and clueless about her faults. i was condemning her for what she has done and effectively letting my anger out. want to know what my brother's reply is?
he said, mary doesn't know that she's doing something wrong when i keep telling her that i'm actually not angry. therefore she'd keep on doing the same thing, without realizing it is wrong. so i can't really complain unless i tell her the truth. huh. i tried defending myself by telling him that mary would have my head and not talk to me for the rest of my life if i confront her.
he said, "it is better that you confront her instead of you feeling horrible the whole time. she needs to know. if she keeps this up, she's going to have problems in the future. she's your friend, and it is your responsibility to help her out before it's too late." heh, suddenly my brother is the wisdom guru.
so... i am officially confused. yesterday mary sent me an sms asking if i am angry at her. like all times, i said no, there's nothing to be angry of. is that the right thing to do? ok, i admit that i'm a chicken if i were to confront her about this. i'm not really good at face-to-face confrontations. but seriously, what should i do???
anywho, i was on my way back to my hometown for my dad's birthday last night. i was in the car with my brother. i had nothing else to talk about so i told him about mary, about how she's very inconsiderate and clueless about her faults. i was condemning her for what she has done and effectively letting my anger out. want to know what my brother's reply is?
he said, mary doesn't know that she's doing something wrong when i keep telling her that i'm actually not angry. therefore she'd keep on doing the same thing, without realizing it is wrong. so i can't really complain unless i tell her the truth. huh. i tried defending myself by telling him that mary would have my head and not talk to me for the rest of my life if i confront her.
he said, "it is better that you confront her instead of you feeling horrible the whole time. she needs to know. if she keeps this up, she's going to have problems in the future. she's your friend, and it is your responsibility to help her out before it's too late." heh, suddenly my brother is the wisdom guru.
so... i am officially confused. yesterday mary sent me an sms asking if i am angry at her. like all times, i said no, there's nothing to be angry of. is that the right thing to do? ok, i admit that i'm a chicken if i were to confront her about this. i'm not really good at face-to-face confrontations. but seriously, what should i do???