Someone explain this to me...

[slytherin_heart]

Can someone please tell me what is wrong with a nine year old knowing that gay people exist? I mean, seriously. I wouldn't want to be in charge of getting into detailed explanations of gay sex (or straight sex, for that matter) to a little kid, but is it really necessary to talk in hushed tones and say that it's his "friend" (finger quotes included

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[prongsy]

I would recommend watching something that has men/men (or girl/girl) kissing in it with your sister. Not something smutty, just some general movie/show that's completely innocuous and... oh, look at that, they kissed. That way, if your sister is confused by it, she'll bring it up herself. And if she's like, "*shrugs* ok", then that's that.

Get into Dr. Who. It's a kid focused show in the UK and new!Who has boy kissing (thank you, RTD). Or something else. That way, you're not actually going against your mom's wishes and explaining it to her, you just... um... "forgot" it was there, lol.

[slytherin_heart]

My mom was watching Torchwood at the time, and she was explaining to me that two of the characters are "friends" - which is when she expressly forbid me from mentioning such things to my sister. And my mom watches Dr. Who and stuff, with my sister around, so maybe she's not as oblivious as my mom would like. (Granted, with the aforementioned Torchwood thing, she was very careful to mention that "Jack is the only man Ianto likes. Otherwise he's totally straight!!!!!" Which I interpret as "It's okay, I can still watch the show, because he's not actually gay")

I dunno. I'm just irritated that my mom is acting like it's some big giant secret that sometimes, people are gay. Because, really? wth

[prongsy]

Ack! So it was TW/DW...

She was explaining this to YOU? O_O Your profile puts you at 19 (sorry, I checked to be sure before I commented)... that's... wow.

And um, it's only just come out that Ianto's only guy-love is Jack (in the various books it was pretty blatant that he was bisexual) and Jack most assuredly has been with other men. Jack is NO WHERE NEAR "totally straight", Ianto or otherwise, and he's the MAIN character.

Your mom sounds kind of homophobic (not extremely so, but if she sees such a need to rationalize things and hide things, there's a latent trace of something there).. I'd say call her on it, but that seems drama-tastic.

Just... gah.

Though, to be fair, my parents never told me about homosexuality (but, they never hid it either). I just sort of went with it, like it was always naturally in existence and I never even thought to question it. Hell, I've been into slash since I was 14 (so, a decade ago o_O).

[slytherin_heart]

I don't watch the show, and I asked her who Ianto was, and she said that it was Jack's "friend" because my 9 year old sister was in the room... I was just kinda like o.0

And then when I clarified "You mean his boyfriend?" she nodded and shushed me. In case my sister was listening. Because... that would be bad? IDGI And then she explained that they're only gay for each other, or something.

My mother claims that she's not homophobic, just as she claims that she's not racist, or prejudiced at all, or intolerant for any number of other things. Sadly, her words/actions do not always fall in the realm of non-prejudice.

[prongsy]

Ahhhhh... ok! That makes more sense. Not what your mom did, but the scenario.

Jack is the main character and he's "omnisexual"... he often talks about having done it with men/women/tentacle aliens (think Kirk, only actually allowed to be so open minded on the actual show *shakes fist at Trek and hopes they allow Kirk to show his man-love side*). In Doctor Who (before getting TW as a spin-off) he kisses both the Doctor (male) and his companion (female).

The actor himself, John Barrowman, is gay (and married... god bless the UK for that being legal *hugs it*).

But... I'm sorry. I don't know what to tell you but that's crap. Can your mother really forbid you to do things? You are very open minded, did your mom "protect" you from this, too? I mean, maybe there's hope for your sister being fine with it all despite your mom's issues?

I hope so. :( *hugs*

[slytherin_heart]

It's more of the "it's her kid, so technically it's her right" sort of thing - which bugs me to no end. I'll probably ignore it and have a mini-convo with my sister about it sometime when Mom's not around (a general "you know that sometimes boys like boys" thing).

I have to assume that my mom tried to "protect" me from it, but then I've had my own e-mail address since I was 7, so good luck sheltering me from things. ^_^