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[sluttyforcats]

perhaps it's just the field i work in and the people i choose to associate myself with, but i am thoroughly tired of people being downright RUDE to me. i am not here to try to make your experience more difficult, i am not here to fight or bicker or impede you from your goals, and yet every single person that i have interacted with speaks to me in

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[usurpmygod]

you know. this entry sparked a comment from me about friendship.
Sometimes I think that insecurity can be the death of a relationship of any sort. I don't think it's a good idea to need people to call you to check that you exist. I think that you should try to get ahold of them instead. That's the problem a lot of times, and I've noticed this in my life as well as of late- often times if you don't put in the effort to plan something out and give people a call, then it isn't going to happen.
I think the other thing is that because friendships change as people age, there should be some plan before you call to ask people to hang out, because otherwise it can turn into "what are we going to do?" sitting around at someone's house.
also, don't underrate your bonds- my parents have known some people for a long, long time, and while they don't see them for months at a time and get a phone call maybe ONCE a year to see people, they act like they've never been apart.
I think another part of what keeps friendships going is new experiences. When you don't see your friends for a while, even maybe only for a week, you'll have things to talk about, and you won't get on each other's nerves. I think a big problem with wanting to hang out with friends or stay in touch is no matter how good of friends you are you can start to annoy each other.
Anywho, that was my rant, if none of it applies, I'm sorry, but I figured I'd drop a couple of pennies anyway.

:)

[sluttyforcats]

I agree with you on many, many parts of this comment. Insecurity IS the death of a relationship, whether it be the casual aquaintance or the serious, year-long love affair. Perhaps I was a little more vague in this posting than I am usually - there's just a situation where I really like and enjoy the company of a few select people that I am not yet close with, but would like to be .. they express the same interest in becoming better friends, yet no effort on their part is made. No phone calls, no plans made, nothing, yet when we see eachother, they seem so excited to see me! Sometimes, I really cannot read people.

Friendships do change with time, and that's why lasting friendships are hold to hold down, especially considering our age group. We are changing so much every day that it can be difficult to hold a friendship for more than a year at a time.

There are friends I have that I don't speak to more than once or twice a year, because of distance, or other given factors, but we pick up right where we left off .. in a way, these are some of the friendships that I value the most because I know that we can keep something going despite the irregularity of our interaction.

I appreciate your comment and I agree whole-heartedly on all points, however, I think that what I was really trying to get to in my post is a little bit different than what you were aiming at.

[usurpmygod]

Oh, I see the situation now. That is a tough one to call. I think you'll figure out what works best though. Maybe you both need to just try to see each other more so that you get more used to the idea?