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been married now for about 7 months. it shows by my lack of journal posting. no time to post and nothing much to post about. "come home from work, i stayed home, we had dinner, we went to bed". for the most part though, marriage really forces you to grow up right away. no more drinking for no reason 4 times a week. no more playing video games with the boys till dawn (i really miss that one). no more spending on luxury items because we're saving for our soon to be built house.
the key to this drastic transition has been balance. while i had to give up a lot, renee and i still maintain connections to our younger days. i still play ball with the guys and she still goes out once in a while with the girls. i allow her to do a bit of shopping within reason and i have my poker nights once a week. i guess it's more the case of moderation and balance together.
the other night i went out with 3 of my single friends for some good ol drinking downtown. while fun because i'm bonding with my boys, it was different because while we're all there to hang out, they also have their secondary or primary focus of finding girls. it's not a downer for me but it's something that excludes me. it's weird that when i was in a commited relationship i still could go out and have the feeling that i was on the market. but now with the ring it's totally different. i can't explain but only say that you'll find out when you tie the knot.
the whole thing just makes me feel a bit older than my friends. oddly enough i think i'm the youngest of my highschool buddies. getting older though doesn't depress me. the maturaty and responsibilities just seem to come natural at this stage in my life. it's like i have something inside me that tells me i can't be stupid in the ways i was in my younger years. i'm not at the stage where i hate seeing kids in the mall but i am at the stage where i don't care anymore about looking so gold collar. i don't need the best cell phone, the designer clothing or a new pair of shoes every month. i also don't feel the need to modify my car anymore. in fact, i own two cars and i choose to take the bus to work (1. saves money 2. i get an extra 30 min sleep on the bus). i guess the need to floss and be "blinged" is something i've grown out of. anything that i bling from now on will be my house.
so i guess it looks like my life is pretty straight and set. very little risks, very little adventure. for the moment i will agree and admit my life has no surprises ahead. i did have one moment recently though where phn and i talked about a possible venture that we've both thought about in seperate forums. it really did have me itching to jump into the deep end. i think a big part of me was scared to materialize anything with it knowing the monetary risks involved with starting an enterprise but for some reason an even larger part of me was begging fran to show me it was feasable. so if you're listening fran...i'm listening too.
oh and my house is gonna be in Ajax. lots of golf courses there so i'll have a fun time picking which one to join.
can't wait for atlantic city in june.
been married now for about 7 months. it shows by my lack of journal posting. no time to post and nothing much to post about. "come home from work, i stayed home, we had dinner, we went to bed". for the most part though, marriage really forces you to grow up right away. no more drinking for no reason 4 times a week. no more playing video games with the boys till dawn (i really miss that one). no more spending on luxury items because we're saving for our soon to be built house.
the key to this drastic transition has been balance. while i had to give up a lot, renee and i still maintain connections to our younger days. i still play ball with the guys and she still goes out once in a while with the girls. i allow her to do a bit of shopping within reason and i have my poker nights once a week. i guess it's more the case of moderation and balance together.
the other night i went out with 3 of my single friends for some good ol drinking downtown. while fun because i'm bonding with my boys, it was different because while we're all there to hang out, they also have their secondary or primary focus of finding girls. it's not a downer for me but it's something that excludes me. it's weird that when i was in a commited relationship i still could go out and have the feeling that i was on the market. but now with the ring it's totally different. i can't explain but only say that you'll find out when you tie the knot.
the whole thing just makes me feel a bit older than my friends. oddly enough i think i'm the youngest of my highschool buddies. getting older though doesn't depress me. the maturaty and responsibilities just seem to come natural at this stage in my life. it's like i have something inside me that tells me i can't be stupid in the ways i was in my younger years. i'm not at the stage where i hate seeing kids in the mall but i am at the stage where i don't care anymore about looking so gold collar. i don't need the best cell phone, the designer clothing or a new pair of shoes every month. i also don't feel the need to modify my car anymore. in fact, i own two cars and i choose to take the bus to work (1. saves money 2. i get an extra 30 min sleep on the bus). i guess the need to floss and be "blinged" is something i've grown out of. anything that i bling from now on will be my house.
so i guess it looks like my life is pretty straight and set. very little risks, very little adventure. for the moment i will agree and admit my life has no surprises ahead. i did have one moment recently though where phn and i talked about a possible venture that we've both thought about in seperate forums. it really did have me itching to jump into the deep end. i think a big part of me was scared to materialize anything with it knowing the monetary risks involved with starting an enterprise but for some reason an even larger part of me was begging fran to show me it was feasable. so if you're listening fran...i'm listening too.
oh and my house is gonna be in Ajax. lots of golf courses there so i'll have a fun time picking which one to join.
can't wait for atlantic city in june.