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Wow... where do I begin? There's so much that I seriously can't handle right now. The fact that I don't get to see Connie whenever I want or I'm not able to be with her all the time like I'd want. I know I screwed up when I went into her house. I had a bad vibe about it too, I should've been more careful. So now, whenever I need Connie, I have to ( Read more... )
Sarah said, "arguing is healthy and stuff, but you are young. arguments shouldnt happen so much, it should all be like you're best friends and having a wonderful time, all the time." Let me ask you something, do best friends always have a wonderful time and live in lala happy land?? Noo, I don't think so. They fight too. Everybody fights. And of course there is going to be more stress on the relationship if the two of you are having trouble seeing each other, so that adds to the arguments. Not to mention the fact you are both still in highschool, that's a major stress factor right there. If you never have arguments, then one or both of you is being fake. So there's absolutely nothing wrong with the fact that you guys argue/have argued... it's completely normal.
It's ok to be that in love, just know that you can and will survive if something ever did happen between the two of you. You might not believe it at the time; but somehow, life does go on.
All that really matters is that you and Connie both believe that you love each other, not what other people believe. And if you're happy with her and she is happy with you, then that is what counts.
And, just one more thing, CiCi's Pizza hires 15 year olds. So maybe you could try there. I sincerely hope that things start looking better for you.
~mariposa
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first of all, love CAN happen when you are 15. except it does not happen with every girl you've dated since you were like 13. let me tell you, you do not fall in love in a week, with every girl you meet. he's thought he was in love with other girls before and how did it turn out? "oh i was wrong", thus, as i was saying, I think its important that he keeps his mind open to the fact that this may not be "love". If you are in love, you don't break up and get back together every two days, which is in essence what happened here. Oscar already, in a short month feels that he can't live without her, when the truth is, he can. He may not want to, but you can not, especially at the age of 15 become so dependent on one person. What happens if connie and oscar goes out for two years and the only thing he focuses on is her, thennnnn lord behold two years later, they break up. I am not saying those two years were wasted, but, if she is the only thing he focused on, the other things in a teenagers life, such as highschool and friends and activities diminish and he's left with absolutely nothing. It's happened to far too many people, lets not let it happen to oscar as well.
You spoke of my statements as if we are all in lala land. Well, let me tell you, if anyone here is lala land it'd be oscar. He may "love" Connie, but she should not mean more to him then friends he's known all his life. There is a time and place for everything, but a friend of 8, 9 years should not mean less than a girl of 1 month.
Also, of course I know highschool is stressful. I'm a highschooler myself, I have a boyfriend as well, I stress over him at times as well. I understand where Oscar is coming from, but I do feel that his "love" for Connie is becoming an obsession far too quickly. As a 15 year old, other things such as sports, activities you enjoy, school should have some importance to you. I'm 17 actually, and I think I do crazier things now then oscar does at 15. He's a kid, he needs to learn to be one. Of course it's fun spending time with your significant other, but I feel that it is also important to go out and do crazy things with your friends, parents, family, and others.
Maybe I'm a blessed child, maybe I have everything i need to allow me to do things such as travel, meet new people, etc. But I feel that Oscar needs to atleast try to do those things. And, let me tell you, though i do not wish to sit here bitchying about my life, i'm a 17 year old who has been diagnosed with sarcoma cancer. I spend most of my time in a hospital and yet I seem to enjoy my life more than oscar does. When a fight with your girlfriend upsets you enough to make you suicidal, that should be a redflag to everyone of how unhealthy this actually is.
So kudos to oscar, you've got yourself a girl. Just remember the chances of you being with her 20 years from now. Regardless of how high you may think they are, the truth is, they aren't. And as you sit here obsessing over here, 20 years from now when you are busy with work, you'll realize how these ARE the best years of your life and how easily you let them slip away.
If this is what makes you happy, then by all means, do as you please. But then again, Never tell me how suicidal you're feeling because you and connie got in a fight, alright?
And, as bitchy as I may have sounded, I stated how I feel. You can hit me back with whatever bitchy comments you may please.
Kay,Thanks.
xo.
Sarah
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