My grandmother died of lung cancer in a Hospice. It seemed so sterile and hospital-like - not the kind of place in which you'd expect someone to be content with spending their last days. But oddly, my grandmother was happy there. They took good care to make sure she was comfortable. But it's been years since that time. I don't know how much things have changed. Being faced with our mortality or that of our loved ones can be quite impactful. My friend's mother died a few years back and while I didn't know her at all, I still wept, because it forced me to realize that my parents would die someday too. But since that time, I think I've grown hardened to death. I don't mourn someone's passing as much as I do the effect it has on their loved ones. Of course, I've not had someone very close to me die in quite some time.
I am sorry that you have to see your last days with your grandfather. I hope you can take this time to prepare yourself emotionally for what is to come. Right now, he needs his loved ones to be strong for him as he says his goodbyes.
If you need to talk at all, feel free to email me any time. angel@brighterthanathousandsuns.com Or, if you're around during the day, sometimes I hop on AIM. My username is lonelycheez.
i very much appreciate it. and your aim name...priceless! :)
it sounds like your grandmother had it much better than my grandfather. last weekend we saw a bump on his forehead, and he hopelessly told us how his aid "accidentally" rolled him into the concrete wall as she was trying (by herself) to haul him onto his bed from his wheel chair. apparently she offered a very sarcastic apology as he told her that he was in pain. it took everything in me not to tear her face off when i saw her later in the visit when her demeanor came off so careless. his last hospital nearly put him into a coma because they weren't giving him his diabetes medicine. it's just a nightmare, and i feel helpless living across state, only seeing him every few weeks if i'm lucky.
we all must deal with it at some point. i remember when my grandmother passed away from uterine cancer and how awful that was...it just doesn't get better.
But it's been years since that time. I don't know how much things have changed.
Being faced with our mortality or that of our loved ones can be quite impactful. My friend's mother died a few years back and while I didn't know her at all, I still wept, because it forced me to realize that my parents would die someday too. But since that time, I think I've grown hardened to death. I don't mourn someone's passing as much as I do the effect it has on their loved ones. Of course, I've not had someone very close to me die in quite some time.
I am sorry that you have to see your last days with your grandfather. I hope you can take this time to prepare yourself emotionally for what is to come. Right now, he needs his loved ones to be strong for him as he says his goodbyes.
If you need to talk at all, feel free to email me any time. angel@brighterthanathousandsuns.com
Or, if you're around during the day, sometimes I hop on AIM. My username is lonelycheez.
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it sounds like your grandmother had it much better than my grandfather. last weekend we saw a bump on his forehead, and he hopelessly told us how his aid "accidentally" rolled him into the concrete wall as she was trying (by herself) to haul him onto his bed from his wheel chair. apparently she offered a very sarcastic apology as he told her that he was in pain. it took everything in me not to tear her face off when i saw her later in the visit when her demeanor came off so careless. his last hospital nearly put him into a coma because they weren't giving him his diabetes medicine. it's just a nightmare, and i feel helpless living across state, only seeing him every few weeks if i'm lucky.
we all must deal with it at some point. i remember when my grandmother passed away from uterine cancer and how awful that was...it just doesn't get better.
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