Man, that's pretty sucky that those are the women you've known. :( (Maybe it's a regional thing?) Honestly, I've never found that the stereotypes hold particularly true; as Ari said, I think it all depends on the individual. I've found it has more to do with stereotypical gender roles and how strongly they're adhered to in a particular group or society -- the people I've had more trouble identifying with were more of the people who were really into ~traditional~ gender roles, if that makes sense... (On that general note, I don't gel as well with people who literally never question anything societally, I guess.) I don't know how to describe it, but my favorite people tend to be the ones who kind of do whatever they want without caring much for whatever they're ~supposed~ to be doing according to gender stereotypes, haha.
And hahahaha agreeing with Ari that there are totally some gossipy dudes, but I think sometimes it's perceived differently. I don't really see how the stereotypical locker room talk would be any less gossipy than women discussing people over tea or whatever. :'D
My friends have largely tended to be women for whatever reasons, but I've met diverse enough people that I don't feel like stereotypes reflect anything useful about gender. I mean, sure, there are stereotypically "feminine" things and activities I don't identify with or care for and that's always been the case, but the same thing applies to "masculine" things too. Growing up I never cared much about dolls, makeup, or romance, but I certainly didn't care about cars or sports either. (I think I tended to gravitate towards less gendered things half out of spite, bahaha) *SHRUGS* PEOPLE ARE COMPLICATED BEEP BOOP
No I totally agree. I realize this way of thinking is incorrect and that most people don't really fall into gender roles when you come right down to it.
It just feels like most of my friends were boys, but now as I get older, most of my CLOSE friends are girls.
It probably just has to do with how my relationships developed and less to do with gendering. Although, I do find my mom's "Girls do this, and boys do this" mentality extremely frustrating and don't really tolerate the same from other people very well.
Still, I've met extremely emotional boys who grew up on a farm, girls who like to shoot things and go to day spas.
And hahahaha agreeing with Ari that there are totally some gossipy dudes, but I think sometimes it's perceived differently. I don't really see how the stereotypical locker room talk would be any less gossipy than women discussing people over tea or whatever. :'D
My friends have largely tended to be women for whatever reasons, but I've met diverse enough people that I don't feel like stereotypes reflect anything useful about gender. I mean, sure, there are stereotypically "feminine" things and activities I don't identify with or care for and that's always been the case, but the same thing applies to "masculine" things too. Growing up I never cared much about dolls, makeup, or romance, but I certainly didn't care about cars or sports either. (I think I tended to gravitate towards less gendered things half out of spite, bahaha) *SHRUGS* PEOPLE ARE COMPLICATED BEEP BOOP
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It just feels like most of my friends were boys, but now as I get older, most of my CLOSE friends are girls.
It probably just has to do with how my relationships developed and less to do with gendering. Although, I do find my mom's "Girls do this, and boys do this" mentality extremely frustrating and don't really tolerate the same from other people very well.
Still, I've met extremely emotional boys who grew up on a farm, girls who like to shoot things and go to day spas.
People are complicated BZZZZ BOOP BLIP.
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