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So I no longer have a crush on the hot, blonde, anthropology girl who likes Star Trek.
You know, because it's cool that she's really smart, and really hot, but like, she's also a huge suck up, huge bragger, and super gossipy.
Like today in class, I asked if I could borrow a pencil- you know, because I always use my laptop so I don't always remember to bring pencils and paper too- and she turned me and went "unk, so like, are you like, not prepared for class?"
and I'm all like "um. No."
Then after class she waited for me to walk and talk like we sometimes do- and she tottaly started making fun of one of the other girls in our class and talking about how she's all like "you know, she's just like one of those obnoxious skinny preppy highschool popular girls...."
Which may be ture, and maybe ture... but so what? It's not hurting me any if that girl is preppy and highschool like. It might annoy me, or something, but not baddly enough to try to gossip about it with someone I hardly know!
You know, what?
I'm sick of nice being a bad thing. I know that it's a man's world, and that us girls have to learn to compete with the Big Boys. I know that expecting people to notice how smart/talented/whatever you are isn't something people are going to notice unless you tell them. I know, we've got to be able to assert ourselves, and Ask for Raises, and Speak Louder, and Carry Bigger Sticks.
I know.
.... but I'm not going to do it at the cost of being a bitch. I'm not going to put down those around me to look good. I'm not going tell everyone how smart I am by showing off to class members. I'll show off by writing excellent papers. I'll show off by holding my own in intellegent conversations without insulting anyone else.
From now on, I'm going to make extra sure that I take no pleasure from feeling like I'm better than other girls. I'm going to make an effort not to insult girls for being preppy, or not
You know, because it's cool that she's really smart, and really hot, but like, she's also a huge suck up, huge bragger, and super gossipy.
Like today in class, I asked if I could borrow a pencil- you know, because I always use my laptop so I don't always remember to bring pencils and paper too- and she turned me and went "unk, so like, are you like, not prepared for class?"
and I'm all like "um. No."
Then after class she waited for me to walk and talk like we sometimes do- and she tottaly started making fun of one of the other girls in our class and talking about how she's all like "you know, she's just like one of those obnoxious skinny preppy highschool popular girls...."
Which may be ture, and maybe ture... but so what? It's not hurting me any if that girl is preppy and highschool like. It might annoy me, or something, but not baddly enough to try to gossip about it with someone I hardly know!
You know, what?
I'm sick of nice being a bad thing. I know that it's a man's world, and that us girls have to learn to compete with the Big Boys. I know that expecting people to notice how smart/talented/whatever you are isn't something people are going to notice unless you tell them. I know, we've got to be able to assert ourselves, and Ask for Raises, and Speak Louder, and Carry Bigger Sticks.
I know.
.... but I'm not going to do it at the cost of being a bitch. I'm not going to put down those around me to look good. I'm not going tell everyone how smart I am by showing off to class members. I'll show off by writing excellent papers. I'll show off by holding my own in intellegent conversations without insulting anyone else.
From now on, I'm going to make extra sure that I take no pleasure from feeling like I'm better than other girls. I'm going to make an effort not to insult girls for being preppy, or not