a woman is made to be a mother?
For the first time ever I have met a person who told me that she honestly believes that the most important thing in a woman's life is to have a child.
I found that mind-boggling.
The absolute and total inability to understand that the path that is right for you may not be right for everyone else.
She believes that if you don't squeeze out a baby your life will have no meaning. She asked me, if no baby, what would you live for?
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I don't know. I don't know what I'm living for. I know that I'm enjoying every moment of my life, but no, I don't have a thing that I am living "for". Is this bad? Am I supposed to have a goal?
I have little goals, self-improvement goals and career and personal goals. But nothing that I "want to leave behind when I die". Um my ashes. My ashes will be left here when I die. And hopefully people will have more good memories of me than bad ones.
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She was also surprised to hear that I'd rather adopt than have my own child, if I decide to have children. She said I was the first person she's met, who would prefer to adopt.
There's no way, no fucking way there are so few people who would prefer to adopt. I know that in Russia the situation is pretty different to over here, but if it's this bad... well... no wonder there are so many orphanages. No wonder there are so many kids who are pretty much doomed to a short life of crime and poverty.
I don't get how so many people can not feel the responsibility to all those abandoned kids? How can anyone be so fucking selfish to spend a fortune on fertility treatments/surrogate mothers/similar when there are so many children that need families?
It's like most of the population that can make a difference is fucking blind. Or don't give a shit. Or both. I'm sorry, but if you'd rather produce a new kid just because it would have your genes, than adopt one that's already made, maybe you deserve to live in a place where it's fucking scary to come out after dark.
This ^^ is written about Russia, and Russian kids, and Russian attitudes to adoption.
I found that mind-boggling.
The absolute and total inability to understand that the path that is right for you may not be right for everyone else.
She believes that if you don't squeeze out a baby your life will have no meaning. She asked me, if no baby, what would you live for?
.
.
.
I don't know. I don't know what I'm living for. I know that I'm enjoying every moment of my life, but no, I don't have a thing that I am living "for". Is this bad? Am I supposed to have a goal?
I have little goals, self-improvement goals and career and personal goals. But nothing that I "want to leave behind when I die". Um my ashes. My ashes will be left here when I die. And hopefully people will have more good memories of me than bad ones.
************
She was also surprised to hear that I'd rather adopt than have my own child, if I decide to have children. She said I was the first person she's met, who would prefer to adopt.
There's no way, no fucking way there are so few people who would prefer to adopt. I know that in Russia the situation is pretty different to over here, but if it's this bad... well... no wonder there are so many orphanages. No wonder there are so many kids who are pretty much doomed to a short life of crime and poverty.
I don't get how so many people can not feel the responsibility to all those abandoned kids? How can anyone be so fucking selfish to spend a fortune on fertility treatments/surrogate mothers/similar when there are so many children that need families?
It's like most of the population that can make a difference is fucking blind. Or don't give a shit. Or both. I'm sorry, but if you'd rather produce a new kid just because it would have your genes, than adopt one that's already made, maybe you deserve to live in a place where it's fucking scary to come out after dark.
This ^^ is written about Russia, and Russian kids, and Russian attitudes to adoption.