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[sleepnude]

Hey, you have no idea how much, after reading the last entry I made here, I want to go back to my past self and say "NO YOU STUPID IDIOT! STAY AWAY FROM THAT GIRL!" but I can't and what is done is done. I'm a wiser, more mature person because of what happend and I don't think I'd trade that for anything. I'm not saying it didn't suck, but it has

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Experience Can, Indeed, be a Harsh Teacher

[ex_comrade_]

As one who has been attracted to ill-suited lovers, I can attest to the fact that my experiences have been both painful and instructive. Sadly, I cannot say that I've paid much attention to the lessons that came from my involements. (Notice I call these relationships involvements, rather than romances.) You indicate that you've grown, as a result of your relationship with Sarah. You even say that you wouldn't trade what you went through with her. I,unfortunately, went from one tragedy only to enter into another. Thank goodness, time usually elapsed between these tragedies. Yet, I did glean some helpful information as a result of each.

Here's what I've learned. From my relationship with my former fiancee, I learned that one shouldn't volunteer one's past history. What you say can, and will, be used against you in the heat of anger! I learned that it's not always better to express your feelings for someone to whom you're attracted. Most times, it's best to show that you like that individual. There are times, however, when such an expression will make you look like a fool. I learned that feelings cloud one's judgment and blind one to possible manipulation. I learned that sexual contact is not the same as true love. (True love is something I've never experienced.) I learned that obsession can often masquerade as love. I learned that you cannot buy someone else's love, no matter what enticement you offer. I learned that, if the person you like gives no indication of interest they're really not interested! I learned that feelings can only carry a relationship so long, there has to be more to a relationship than butterflies and swooning.