Forgive me, Father, for I have Sinned...
I don't know what the deal is, but in the last week, Darby has found it necessary to detail every little thing that she has ever done wrong, or even may have done wrong in her short 8 years of life. It has ranged from, "I borrowed a pencil from Alicia and forgot to give it back, to "I played 'sex' with my Barbies."
I have tried to alleviate her worry about getting in trouble for these old 'offenses,' but she tells me that she still feels bothered, as if there is something else that she has not told me but she can't remember it. I told her that she is forgiven for anything she might perceive that she has done wrong and that we will start fresh from today, but that doesn't seem to help. I think that if she says to me one more time, "Mommy, can I talk to you in my room," that I may tell her no.
It seems that a lot of the things she confesses are related to sexual content that she has seen on TV. I asked her where she saw the man putting whipped cream on a girl and then another girl eating it of of her, and she told me at her dad's house. I really have to put some thought into this one. I want to rage at Jeff and threaten him, but I know that is not the way to go. I want to get a lawyer and file for full custody, but I'm not sure we really have a case. I really really want to hurt him emotionally any way I can, but that is not being the better person. So I will wait for the moment when something can be done effectively. In the mean time, I will strive to be the best example for my child and to be there to answer her questions rationally and honestly.
I have tried to alleviate her worry about getting in trouble for these old 'offenses,' but she tells me that she still feels bothered, as if there is something else that she has not told me but she can't remember it. I told her that she is forgiven for anything she might perceive that she has done wrong and that we will start fresh from today, but that doesn't seem to help. I think that if she says to me one more time, "Mommy, can I talk to you in my room," that I may tell her no.
It seems that a lot of the things she confesses are related to sexual content that she has seen on TV. I asked her where she saw the man putting whipped cream on a girl and then another girl eating it of of her, and she told me at her dad's house. I really have to put some thought into this one. I want to rage at Jeff and threaten him, but I know that is not the way to go. I want to get a lawyer and file for full custody, but I'm not sure we really have a case. I really really want to hurt him emotionally any way I can, but that is not being the better person. So I will wait for the moment when something can be done effectively. In the mean time, I will strive to be the best example for my child and to be there to answer her questions rationally and honestly.